My DD (nearly)3 always notices ex-h isn't around. She'll say "Daddy not here" or she'll be overjoyed when he comes to get her.
She says "mummy sad" "mummy worry" when she sees i am upset.
She talks about her daddy alot. It upsets me because I feel bad for her. I used to sit and all the time say "dont worry mummy and daddy love you, you'll see daddy soon" but I find myself getting so frustrated at the situ that I have started saying, "it's alright, don't worry about that" and trying to engage her in playing or distraction. I don't want her to be too upset by it all.
I hope I am handling it ok. I do explain if I am sad but tell her it is alright and that we all get like that sometimes. However she really does pick up on things even at under 3.
I am more worried because ex-h is away for 8 weeks in the Summer and she is going to find it even harder. And I'm left to deal with it
It makes me so cross with ex-h. Then he has to moan and winge about how awful it is not seeing her, when it was his choice to leave
It's just ironic because his mum did the same thing to him, and he's grown up with a head full of ishoos. And now he's repeating it! (Although I am not negative about him to her or around her). Surely when she grows up though she will start to realise somethings up? What if she doesn't want to see him cos of it? Ex-h doesn't have a close relationship with his mum because of his upbringing. What does he expect will happen? Makes me so mad that we could be screwing up another generation!