How do you meet people?

[SuperBunny]

I have done internet dating - it's fine for wasting time when DS is in bed and I have nothing better to do but, other than POF (which I hate), where do you look?

And how do you meet other people, not just for dating. I mean, people to talk to or do things with so you can interact with adults.

I work part time and am home with DS the rest of the time. No family nearby and friends are all married with no DC so weekends are precious couple/ drinking/ clubbing time.

Sorry that you are feeling lonely. You are far from being alone though, did you know that no other society on earth leaves mothers completely isolated. When you look at how women have lived throughout the history of mankind it is always in extended family networks. So even when women are dirt poor they do have each other. Cold comfort I know. So what to do. I would want to CRB check every man I brought home after my friend discovered her internet date turned boyfriend of 3 years had convictions of child molestation.Sorry for being negative but there are shocking statistics about all this which all women should be aware of. I would do plenty of boy-related things to get you out and about, volunteer at clubs/scouts, football practice etc, and then may be do a study course to better your prospects and keep you pre occupied(don't know how old your son is)in the evenings.

I went on a date with someone from an internet site once, it was pretty rubbish.

I am definitely not keen to get into a relationship again in a hurry, but that said I am starting to wonder what people must think of me being single for so long!

I work around old people, and go to uni with younger, so I am in the same kind of position of not actually knowing how I could possibly meet someone even if I wanted to!

MoH are you THE MoH of similar name?

Study course on a weekday evening if your friends would be willing to take turns caring for DS?

Most people on evening classes are adult. Does your lesuire center have a drop in creche? Many do. It's worth cheking out, you may get an hour to yourself to swim or use the gym.

How is is DS? Could he joing any clubs/toddler groups?

Thanks for the suggestions. Here's the thing - atm, my life is good.

DS and I do:
Music class, 2 different playgroups, swimming spend much time at the park and do a lot of babysitting so we see people then.

I also do: 2 different volunteer jobs, run a community garden, a scout group, singing as often as I can (2 or 3 times a month). I see a lot of people a lot of the time. And I love it.

But I may be moving away. I will know no-one so won't have babysitters and have no family nearby. I will have to work. So, I am worried!

I will look up the leisure centre and see if they have a creche - that's a v good idea.

Kidowner - that's a very good point. I am often tempted to join a commune, where you would have that kind of support!

I actually seriously considered joining a commune! But I am glad I didn't!

Ninah, do you mean me when you say MoH!???? confused

Hi Superbunny,
I joined a group called Spice for the times I didn't have the kids - Spice, they have all kinds of events from plane walking, abseiling, pole dancing through to summer balls and fancy dress weekends. I ended up with a social life the envy of my married friends

For the times with kids, look at SingleWithKids for events all around the country.

Another suggestion if you have a particular hobby or interest in mind - MeetUp - there are lots of groups for different activities and locations.

Hope this helps!
Chrissie x

In exactly the same boat, I have friends but all are coupled up. I did try Internet Dating but they all seemed weird and laiden with "baggage". Yes we all have baggage but I've dealt with mine, most of these guys haven't!!!!
I did speed dating parties and it was a real laugh, but the girl I did it with...dare I say it.... had "baggage" and while I found it hysterically funny but socially a good experience she found it harming for her mind. So that stopped. I'm brave, but not brave enough to go alone.
It dawned on me when I went to a wedding at the weekend and all my friends were in couples and I was the only one who wasn't, I had a good laugh, a good drink and a boogie but it was still quite a nerve racking experience considering they all know exp !!!
But I think I'll try Spice and MeetUp to see if its my kind of thing.

Not that is not me. I've been away for a couple of weeks. I am the MOH

sorry for the confusion - meant mascara!
hello manatee
back to original question I have one good friend from school gates one old friend who lives locally, both are v social and don't mind hanging out with a non nuclear family despite having husbands themselves, and I am dating someone from match dot com
oh yes and I have nice old lady neighbour and her entourage
and the man who dug my flower beds and his family
and so it goes on really. Has taken about two years, the school gate mum is about to emigrate this summer and I'm dreading that

As well as the links I gave above, Plenty of Fish and Midsummers Eve often organise meet-ups, pretty much around the country too.

There really is no need for anyone to be lonely, but it does take effort. The mountain is NOT going to come skipping to Mohammed no matter how long someone sits there waiting. All it takes is to muster up the courage to go to one event and the rest follows course......

I have a far more enjoyable social life (with and without my kids) now than ever before, it was definitely worth making the move to try these things.

Chrissie x