Is listening to Ds read, once a week really that hard ????

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Argh bloody xp.

Three times now, I have asked if he can please listen to Ds read a couple of pages of his book when he is at his for tea on a Wednesday and does he do it, does he bollocks.

Ds is really struggling with school at the mo, and reading and writing in particular and is due to be given an IEP so it is really important that it gets done but it is always left to me.

I am sooooooooooooooooooooo sick of xp not giving a toss about ds.

He also knew that today was when I was seeing the Senco but has he asked what happened, nope, total waste of space.

Makes me feel so sad and agry for ds that his own father really doesn't give a toss that he is struggling.

No words of advice, but I would be incredibly annoyed in that situation. Is he a good dad in other ways, or is it more than just the reading? I suppose if he's usually reasonable then you could sit him down and explain how important it is, et cetera.

He does what he has to, ie has them on a wednesday for tea and overnight on a friday but does absolutly nothing with them unless it is something he wants to do.

Obviously don't know your situation and I do sympathise, as I often feel reading books and all the difficult stuff is all down to me and we live together, but if your DS is struggling, might it not be good for the pressure to be off one night per week?

He already doesn't read on a Friday (at his dads) and I don't read with him on a Sat so I don't make him do it every night.

Sorry, meant to add that it is important that it gets done on a Wednesday as the folder is handed in on thursdays for the books to be swapped.

no it's not, and he is not being of any help with something really important. How does he react if you ask, or remind him?

your ex, not your ds!

When I remind him he just says that he forgot or that ds told him he didn't have to read

He has also just said that he didn't know anything about the etting, which is complete rubbish as he stood in my kitchen when i read the letter out loud.

He will deny being in the wrong until he is blue in the face though, and then, he will still do fuck all to help ds.

it does sound like he doesnt care - which is odd, tho i know blokes that just can't be bothered.

ds - and dd's - should be the most important things to him. he should put them before everything else.

and when they have problems - school, whatever - they should become his problems.

can't explain why he doesnt see it that way.

i used to listen to all my kids read - i even encouraged it, and they loved it. and i loved to see them thinking and learning. thats what he should want to do, not just listen to kids' stories, but want to see them learning and growing.

kids are brilliant, parents aren't always.

ex's can be crap and then some.

and there's too many 'shoulds' in this.

just keep being both parents