I thought I was sorted and well on the way to healing thanks to the support of MN, friends and family. I'd paid a hefty sum for my home to buy xDH out and was feeling like I had really achieved something. But two days after he got his lump sum, he tells me that he is having twins with his OW, and they are due at the beginning of April! We are long over, after I found out about this OW, and she kindly then told me about an earlier OW when it had looked like xHB and I could have patched things up initially.... So a bit cross at myself that hearing he is having kids, still hurts so much
Because he's been bad at contributing when he should in the past, we have a standing order in place so I dont have to chase all the time. I realise from other stories that I am incredibly lucky in this, but to add insult to injury, he's already cut his contribution because these babies are due in the next month.
I've tried really hard to not go down the CSA route to keep as much goodwill as possible, but we do go by what the CSA would say he has to contribute (15% net). I know there is a reduction when children are born into the non-resident parents family, but I dont know how much it is. Is it a % or a fixed amount per child? It's just come as a hell of a shock how much of a difference he says it is going to make to what he pays for our one DC. With my mortgage being even bigger than we used to have, following paying him this lump sum, I'm worried that I'm going to struggle with this cut in money, and hoped someone can tell me what is the right figure, as it won't be the first time he's pulled the wool over my eyes when it comes to finances.
Thanks!