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[Kea11]

i am a student,my 13 year old daughter lives with and my 16 year old daughter stays wih me at the weekend, my 21 year old son who is also a student and his girlfriend who works (shop job) . We are arguing with him & his girlfriend how much should they contribute (money wise) to living with me, they also use our supplys aswell ! how much is a fair amount from them as a couple to give me each week. please help.

not entirely sure I understand ythe question but have you thought about suggesting from now on they supply all of their own food toiletries etc but maybe no rent as you possibly are getting benfeits still for son as he's in FT education(?)

I'm assuming that they think whatever you've suggested so far is unreasonable and so mayeb once you've suggested they buy all their own food and toiletries they will no longer see you as unreasonable??

If you are a student there is no reason why they shouldn't contribute as fully as possible to the home?

perhaps DS's GF could also pay a small amount of rent

find out how much a student who lives as a lodger pays and tell them how much it is to stop the arguing

My mum always made us pay 25% of our earnings!

Tricky one...

If your son and girlfriend where in equality of circumstances I would say tell you to add up how much you spend a month in water, electricity, gas, and food. Ask them to pay 2/5 of the budget, and contribute to the cost of repairs if it is needed.

But unfortunately, he is still studying so it is only fair for him not to pay or for him to pay a small amount of his job earnings. However... the girl is not your daughter and she is not studying... Well... it is not clear cut, is it? It makes me wonder whether you are subsidising her as if you were her mother...

i think you should ask them to supply their own food/supplies. and once a week treat everyone to a meal/takeaway.