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i am gutted

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piratecat · 13/03/2009 10:15

hiya,

apparentll on facebook, my ex dh has put in his activities. 'battling with my ex wife for contact with my daughter'

open profile.

that's it really, those of you who are familiar with me and my dd, know this is so far from the truth. Sometimes things can really hurt, and bring out the pain and this has.

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CrackerNut · 13/03/2009 10:18

what a tosser and such a liar.

You and your dd know the truth though just remember that.

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piratecat · 13/03/2009 10:20

thanks nutty, i just want to cry. It's so wrong. i know it's not true, but to those who knew us yrs back who are now fb friends, god what is he sayign about me.

The guy stood in my home last week reccommending music and website to me that he thought i would like, and telling me about his family.

it HURTS.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 13/03/2009 10:35

PC this is hideous,but please just ignore it,he's obv.messed in the head and fancies some mind games here
I know a bloke whose exw slags him off all the time on fb some of it is really awful stuff
Anybody who knows you will just shake their heads tbh and take it for what it is -a crock of shite

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piratecat · 13/03/2009 10:37

hey, thankyou. I know. I get angry, and i then get angry with myself for being bothered. All he has done is cuase this little girl heartache.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 13/03/2009 10:55

Yes it is your dd who would be hurt badly if she knew,but as i said my friend has all this type of stuff going on with his exw.
She actually regularly updates with the latest bit of vitriol,sad to be that twisted really,I think she feels that she gains the high moral ground by it all.
If anything anybody who felt any sympathy for her now views her as a bit of a deluded saddo

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piratecat · 13/03/2009 14:44

wow that is very intense, updating regularly like that.

I am just shocked. Indignant. What was worse was he actually rang earlier, and asked me to ask dd if she wants to see him.

I rather felt like teling him to fuck off, or atl east acting in the manner which he has portrayed me.

i have a headache. went to counselling earlier, and she said she was appalled at him. ( sighs )

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Ivykaty44 · 13/03/2009 14:50

If it makes you feel any better... I have a friend on fb who puts stuf on about his ex and ds. TBH it doesn't rinf true and makes me think really you are acting the knob, most of us do think he is somewhat of a knob.

So be aware that his other fb chums may also know he is telling big porkies about his life and just think he is silly to lie

Most lies are told by people that don't realise that the lie they tell is known, it is to much hassles to try to prove it but the person lieing is thought of badly

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piratecat · 14/03/2009 00:23

it doesn't bother me, that his 'now' since he left me friends think that. They don't know me at all. he has a whole new set of friends. It is just people who live far away who used to know us as a happy couple, you know how fb is, you lose touch and people look for you. i am not making much sense prob.

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JJsandcat · 15/03/2009 04:31

hello piratecat, sorry to hear you are sad. FB makes people do weird things, like post attention-seeking status updates or weird profile pictures, etc. I know an NHS surgeon who posed next to a knocked out client with both middle fingers up...lovely

One good advice -and I know it's hard- is to keep a dignified silence and a stiff upper lip. Don't be drawn into his petty squabbles but bitch about him with your friends

TBH, you old friends are probably very uncomfortable reading what he wrote and if I were a new person that came into his life I'd be very wary of a guy slagging off his ex so publicly. After all, he did love you once and he's a coward still rocking up, being nicy nice. I'd fear he'd do it to a new GF too. Or be a backstabbing arse to his friends, too. Wouldn't want to be friends with such a guy.

Keep you head up, chest out & heels on. You're better than him!

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piratecat · 15/03/2009 09:15

thankyou for that jjsandcat, great post!!!! sorry in bit of rush.

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RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 15/03/2009 09:20

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CatchaStar · 15/03/2009 09:32

I know it's hard, but ignore him. Let people see that he is clearly a bit bitter and twisted, especially if he feels the need to openly say those things on fb. Has he nothing better to do with his time?!

My ex is always on facebook talking to friends etc, hasn't made contact with me for weeks to ask how dd is. And she's been very ill recently. Not even a message on fb to ask.

I don't know why they do it, I don't know how they can. All these people who have beautiful children waiting for them, and they make little or no effort to bother with them. It's not like kids ask for much. It's heartbreaking to watch.

Don't even let on that you've seen what he's written, let him think you don't care enough to look. Don't waste your feelings on somebody like him, it doesn't sound like he deserves them. Put all your energy into your little girl, and to hell with him.

I am sorry about what he's written, very nasty of him.

JJsandcat · 15/03/2009 10:10

Reality: Isn't that classified as slander/libel? Well, prosecuting that childish idiot is probably not worth the paper it's written on but for you.

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