Has anybody been to relate post seperation?

[bettyboo26]

Hi,

Just wondering, has anybody been to relate on their own after splitting with DH/DP?
I went with exDH when I was pregnant and it wasn't the best experience of my life! (Councellor didn't appear to be impartial-implied I was paranoid, hormonal etc which my controlling, verbally abusive DH loved!)
I really want to beable to put the past behind me so when I eventually meet someone else I am 'issue' free!
Is relate/ councelling the way to go?

I have mixed feelings about Relate - I think a lot of it depends on your counsellor. But you don't have to be in a couple to go. Perhaps chat to your GP first and see if you can get a referral to a counsellor on the NHS? Or if you can afford it, try a different Relate or private counsellor.

Thanks for replying Tanee.
I found out last week that work will pay for counselling through relate (ooops, just realised my bad spelling in original post! sorry).
Bit wary of going to relate though as past experience wasn't great but keen to resolve any issues I still have. Have got bupa but would need gp referal and really don't want to go via the docs. Plus I'd have to pay the first £100!
No great success stories then?
Glad it's not just me who has mixed feelings about relate.

I am currently seeing a relate counsellor on my own. she is fab, and I am really getting to the bottom of some of my issues (long way to go til I am issue free tho! lol)
And, I have reduced fees as I am a lone parent on a low income. Only pay £25 per session instead of £40.
Go for it, it really helps

I went to Relate with xp also when I was pregnant (we were together at the time). The counseller said that Relate did not 'work' through pregnancy. Post split with xp (who was/is controlling and verbally abusive like yours), I was in a bit of a state and got couselling through my GP which was free. This counsellor was very good and definately helped me.

Don't think it matters which way you go, keep trying until you find one that suits.