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My children aren't safe with XMIL

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mummyfantastico · 03/03/2009 21:32

Please help if you can, I'll try and keep it brief.
XMIL tried to stab me and DD1 8 1/2 years ago, just before my wedding day.
XH then didn't see her for a couple of years, then saw her very infrequently during the rest of our marriage. This was his choice.
After he left me 18 months ago he spent more time with her and has been taking the DDs round to spend time with her and his dad.
Now he's planning on leaving the DDs overnight at their house, and I'm really worried that she might do something to hurt them.
He's also planning on taking the DDs away in the summer with his parents which I'm worried about too.
Does anyone have any ideas/ suggestions?

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Shitemum · 03/03/2009 21:34

did you report the attempted stabbing at the time?

Desiderata · 03/03/2009 21:34

I think you might have to give us a bit more information.

Attempted murder is rather serious, and I'm surprised that she is allowed custody at all.

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mummyfantastico · 03/03/2009 21:37

I forgot to say, after she tried to stab me, I called the police but didn't press charges because XFIL begged me not to, promising he would get help for her.
She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and was having treatment but has a history of deciding that she no longer needs help and stopping treatment.
Also DD1 really can't stand her and would prefer to never ever see her, and DD2 isn't keen on her.

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Desiderata · 03/03/2009 21:39

Then you insist that they don't see her.

As her legal guardian, there is nothing your dh can do about it.

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mummyfantastico · 03/03/2009 21:40

Even though he has parental responsibility?

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Desiderata · 03/03/2009 21:43

You must insist that you are present at all visits.

You can't stop them from seeing her unless you get out an injunction. I'm no legal expert, but I believe that's the case.

It would be very unwise to allow your daughter to go on holiday with her. If she doesn't take her meds, (and if she's on holiday she's probably even less inclined to do so), things could get grim.

I'm surprised that your ex-dh is even contemplating it.

MadamDeathstare · 03/03/2009 21:44

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mummyfantastico · 03/03/2009 21:49

I can't believe he'd contemplate it either. But also i can't believe many of the things he's done over the last couple of years.

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mummyfantastico · 03/03/2009 21:55

That could be worth a try MadamDeathstare, I will look into that tomorrow. Problem with that though is that XH is now a police officer and will freak if he finds out about it.

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alice30 · 04/03/2009 17:09

If your DDs do not want to see her no judge can actually FORCE them to go

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mummyfantastico · 07/03/2009 10:37

Thanks to everyone who gave advice. I went to the CAB and have another appointment there on Tuesday, the man I spoke to said I had a right to deny XH taking them to somewhere I have a genuine concern about so hopefully it should all work out ok.

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