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At last

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CrackerNut · 28/02/2009 15:55

Had an argument with xp last Wednesday and since then he hasn't rung, didn't come in when he collected the kids or dropped them off and has generally stayed out of my way and out of my life.

Thank fuck for that, finally he has got the message.

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Aimsmum · 28/02/2009 16:01

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aGalChangedHerName · 28/02/2009 16:01

Fingers crossed for you!!

How is the job going?

bettyboo26 · 28/02/2009 16:02

Congratulations! Obviously took a while but he took the hint in the end! Can't wait till the day my ex does.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/02/2009 16:03

alla-bloody-lu-ya!
enjoy it!

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CrackerNut · 28/02/2009 16:35

Lol, thanks.

Job was a no go in the end because of weekend shifts but I have other jobs/ideas that I am looking into at the mo so am not too disheartened about it.

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aGalChangedHerName · 28/02/2009 16:49

Aww that's a shame Ach well i'm sure something else will come along which will suit you better eh?

Childminding??

mrsmortenharket · 01/03/2009 16:30

yaaaaaaaay!!!
do you think he could tell my ex to bugger off too? have not been able to tell x where new house is (shame) cos of his behaviour!

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CrackerNut · 01/03/2009 16:34

I did actually seriously consider childminding, but I can't see how i'd get it to work for me because of the unreliable income and me claiming housing benefit.

Tbh I wish i'd pushed for a move when we first split. Too late now as Dd1 starts secondary school this Sept.

Even if he leaves me alone I still hate having him on the doorstep.

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mrsmortenharket · 03/03/2009 10:58

could you move to a different address but not too far away from dd's school?

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CrackerNut · 04/03/2009 15:05

Have tried to do just that a couple of times now MrsM, but no one seems to want to swap with me even though I am prepared to downsize.

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CrackerNut · 12/03/2009 10:56

Well yesterday Dd2 banged her head at school and they wanted her collecting. It was nearly end of school time anyway and dd2 was due to go to her dads with dd1 and ds so I asked xp to get her.

It seems he then saw this as an invitation to be friends again and came in the house and stood there chatting.

I know it sounds petty but I don't want him in the house, it makes me uncomfortable.

So, I have txt him saying i'd rather he stick to dropping and collecting them at the door.

My mate thinks I am being unreasonable really and should have just let it drop, but it is my house and I hate him being in it.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 12/03/2009 11:00

Cracker I feel exactly the same way about my exh

lou33 · 12/03/2009 11:00

if you dont want him in your house dont let him, just take the kids when he drops them off, say thanks and bye and shut the door

dont engage in anything more than you have to , because men like him will see anything extra a encouragement

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CrackerNut · 12/03/2009 11:24

Well he's not replied to the txt so hopefully that means he has gone back to not speaking to me which is how I prefer it.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 12/03/2009 11:31

lol at Cracker

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CrackerNut · 13/03/2009 09:14

Not sure if he actually got the message now because I was just stood at the lights after droping the dc off and his was the first car in the queue of traffic.

He rolled his window down to ask me if I wanted a lift and leaned over to unlock the passenger door.

I just said no and then ignored him.

When is he gonna get that I don't want anything to do with him and that if we didn't have kids together then I would never see or speak to him again.

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lou33 · 13/03/2009 15:03

next time say to him, "that would be really nice but i dont f*cking want to"

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CrackerNut · 13/03/2009 16:08

LOL Lou, he stil won't get it though.

He recently took ds to a party at a ball pool. I suggested he take Dd1 and Dd2 along for something to eat as he said he was going to be bored sitting there on his own.

He said 'ok, fancy it ?'
I said 'no'
He said 'you do really, you just don't want to admit it'
I said 'no, i really fucking don't'

He still didn't get it.

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lou33 · 13/03/2009 16:10

tell him to go see his doctor about his delusions

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CrackerNut · 13/03/2009 17:18

Yay, he pulled up and just beeped the horn

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CrackerNut · 13/03/2009 17:19

To collect the dc I mean, not beeped it at me lol.

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lou33 · 13/03/2009 17:24

citronella · 14/03/2009 08:37

Crackernut, I'm glad I've seen this thread of yours because sometimes i do wonder if I am being unreasonable too. But your post describes exactly how my ex is being.

He just can't seem to get it that aside from arranging contact with kids I don't want anything to do with him. His attitude is I am being unfriendly and it would be in the kids interest if we got on and no wonder he doesn't come to get the kids more often.

Why on earth would I want to reintroduce him to my life when I went through so much to get away?

Why don't they get it!!???

citronella · 14/03/2009 08:38

Oh and I was being unreasonable because I could not and would not give him money to pay a bill of his!

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