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tessofthedurbervilles · 21/02/2009 09:27

I am 6 months and when first found out exp was a total shit...I posted on here and everyone was so helpful...so sorry guys but nobody else I can be so honest with...
My exp was very much 'I'm too busy and I can't cope' amongst other mean behaviour so I blocked his number from my phone and set my mind to going it alone.
Suddenly he realised I was doing this and decided to get in touch with promises of 'I will do what I can please let me be involved'
I am so vulnerable right now so I said I would meet him on sunday. I called him last night to to arrange and he was busy so 'would call ne back' he didn't (no surprse there) so I texted 'thanks for the callback. I have just realised I am busy on sunday so cannot meet' he texted straight back 'you call me?' I sent 'Its late I am going to bed' and that was that.
I am now in tears and back to square one. He thinks he can do what he likes and pick us up when it suits him and I want better for me and my baby.
I feel strongly that she deserves a consistent role model and to know she is totally loved - not when it suits. He thinks I am stupid on the consistancy thing but he has two kids that live with him (he wanted those as he told me referring to my baby) and I don't want her to grow up feeling third best and constantly not knowing when she would see him again.
Help me please I know I am angry and upset but I just don't know what to do.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
ridingjoker · 21/02/2009 09:46

are you 6mth pregnant?

tessofthedurbervilles · 21/02/2009 18:45

sorry yes 6 months pg and up the wall with hormones I cannot even think straight....

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ridingjoker · 22/02/2009 14:55

did you go and see him today? hormones are a real bugger.

hayley2u · 11/04/2009 20:08

ar i feel for you i really do.this happened with me and y ex p he was not happy at all about me being pregnant, and anted mw to get rid we fell out when i refused.
anyway he never bothered with me from then throughot my pregnancy i was heart broken and hormonal so ended up very depressed.
the day i went to labour i told my mum to text him as i always wanted him to be a part of my sons life, it was up to him to refuse. he came downand has basiccally been a part of his life ever since.
he wasnt thatgood at first his mates were still ore important but now my ds is 6 and he is a very hands on dad.

i think most men cant acknowledge whats going o until it happens,pregnacy is so far away from them were as us we feel it every second they cant relate.
if i was you i would not bother getting in touch now. you ant force hi to want the baby but tellhim important things ever now and then or lethim know when you go to labour ts all down to him then
xx

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