How do you handle breastfeeding and dating?

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I split from exH when DS was only a few weeks old and have eased myself into the dating scene over the last few months or so. A really funny situation is arising where i'm at the point of [ahem] starting a physical relationship yet still breastfeeding. Bra on or bra off?

oh sorry quickie this did make me smile
i did breastfeed mine but was married at the time
if youre with NM then i guess its an off

LOL but will they leak?!

He's staying over tomorrow and i'm anticipating the situation-eek!

It already feels a bit weird BFing in front of him tho I can't justify stopping yet so will have to copeand ride out the weirdness I guess...

Its just a funny situation to be in! Most people would have a long term partner. Its bad enough having to unveil a post baby bod- wish me luck!

ride it out I meant

oh lol
yes there's a thought you might squirt him
sorry not a helpful comment there
bottom line is if he has a problem is he worth it
and i very much doubt a post baby bod will put him off

he hasn't said that he has a problem- Think the problem is me! I hate feeding in public too.

Hmm lights off then me thinks

Keep your bra on! I have memories of a similar situation and lots of milk everywhere. Was very off putting for me, although he didn't seem to notice!

Oh dear poor you - good luck

He might actually like it cringe

maybe wear some fancy sort of lingerie that is hard to take off, like a corset, so he thinks keeping it on is some sort of feminine mystique.. you must excuse me for my out of date advice though because the last time i was in that sort of situation was the last time i wore my nice jeans (about a year and a half)...

I would wear slinky nice bra and keep it on...if you are constantly keeping an eye on your nipples you won't be relaxing and enjoying yourself

hello1 i would say bra on... esp if he has no experience of the whole BF situation. i went through the same thing, worried for no reason the bra stayed on for the most and them i forgot all about what i was worried about. other point is bay staying with someone else whilst you will be "dating"? as that was the only problem that i encountered, baby cried boobs got ready for action, luckly this was a few weeks later and was found halarious by both of us! have fun!

Was in same situation , I warned NM he really wasnt bothered afraid the bra didnt last long he was very considerate and ummm didnt stimulate them too much shall we say !
It was fine

Hi thanks for replies- I kept my nicest feeding (figleaves underwired!) bra on in the end- couldn't deal with the whole leaky nips situation so decided to play it safe. Yes baby with me tho slept through the action in another room until 4,5,6,7am sigh... roll on teething hell. no morning nookie for me... boo.

Its all a tad surreal still- so far the BFing baby doesn't seem to be bothering him- not that it would make any difference tbh.

I like the corset idea- plus that would be great for the saggy post baby stomach...

i no i'm abit late but was also going to say bra on... so how old is your dd?

You are brave to get involved so quickly after your baby, my dd is 19months and I am so worried bout how my body looks that I think I need to get to the gym before inviting anyone home.

eek my DS's are 2 yrs & 4 months respectively! the stress of him leaving meant that the baby weight fell off me really quick and I weigh less now than before...always a silver lining

I do have a horrific saggy skin stomach tho- i'm saving for a tummy tuck. I'm guessing that by oo 2011 I may be able to afford it unless I meet some rich hunky man before that wants to sort it out for me! There is no stretch left in the skin at all- it looks horrible and hangs sadly over the CS scar

On the plus side the rest of me is fine tho i just have to make sure i keep a vest on or lights down...