Need to have a rant and moan about X and his behaviour

[HOLLY23]

I am so pissed off, really fuming and getting more and more worked up! My X had my DCs this weekend, on Saturday night he was drunk and asked my DD why I left him! My DD is 11 and said she wasn't getting involved and it was between him and me. I hate how's he trying to play the sympathy card with everyone, he made my life hell for the last few years, he treated me really badly and admitted he doesn't love me and yet he can't understand why I left?? and now he's using the same emotional blackmail shit on the DCs! Add to this he's hasn't given me a single penny for the DCs since I left him last summer, and because I decided to get it sorted through the consent order, he knows he doesn't have to give me a single penny until the papers are sealed by the court, so he on purpose takes his time to return papers to my solicitor. I'm sure he's doing this to wind me up and I just can't wait to be finally divorced from him. I've got 20 pages typed up of the hell, him and his family put me through over the last few years and yet they wonder why I left! I'm sure as time goes on, X and his family will do eveything they can to turn my DCs against me

a very depressingly familiar one this.
am not surprised he's an ex.
i know it's hard but try not to let him get to you do the 'la la la' thing in your head when he attempts to talk to you
its bang out of order that he's using the children too
he has obvious issues and needs to grow up quick
you are very brave to take the decision to leave him alot of women just put up
see it as the first step to enjoying the rest of your adult life which you more than deserve
and the more he drags his feet the more it will cost him financially so he's a real LOSER all round
however tempting dont get drawn into his games it will cost you mentally/financially/and your time
ignore the crap that comes from his solicitor too if s/he is anything like my exh's they will be looking to up the anti too
the divorce process is truly hideous

holly - your dc will learn in time what he's doing in wrong. you dd already sees this as she's refusing to get involved. if he continue to push her on the matter i think you wont find her taking his side. as she obviously finds it uncomfortable to be put in that position.

in my head it's "da ra la da fucking ra"

lol at Elm!
actually i just smile at mine now
with a 'there's the door close it behind you on the way out there's a good chap...'
this really pisses him off
1-0 to asbm!!

lol thanks guys, I got home from work and DD was at her friends house and DS was being pampered by my parents. Anyway they've not mentioned their dad today and I took them to see Bolt at the cinema, they both absolutely loved it and are now playing on the DS lite together so its lovely to them so happy! . I've got Wednesday off work also and taken them out all day to a country farm park where they have baby animals, the DCs love it there. Just want them to be happy and not worry about grown-up stuff.