just when life was getting better.....

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after almost 12 months since split Ive moved house (twice - one rented now bought) moved 300 miles away from frineds (mine and dd's) got a job and actually started to enjoy being independent I find out the school I work in is closing down and I have no job in sept and my mum whom Ive not had the best of relationships with throughoit mu life but things got ok when i moved to be near her for support re childcare so I could get a joob an support myseld and dd has just decided she hates her grandaughter and wont look after her for 1 hr in morning and 1.5 hrs at night so I have to find emergency childcre put my daughter through yet more crap and be all happy clappy sorry just having a rant really I miss my friends and so does my dd just wish I could have afforded to stay where we lived but I have to look past the impossible and make the most of having my own house but at a price of no life whatsoever apart from dd (whom I love dearly) but a nice girly chat and a bottle of wine would go down lovely every now and then.... anyone any suggestions?

You've achieved a lot in a short time - it's really unlucky about your job. There may be something even better round the corner though?? Or maybe you could do some temping or some self-employed work (childminding?) to keep you ticking over...

Are there any mums at school who could help you out with childcare? They may also be able to offer the wine and chat?!

I think that you've been really brave to move away and make a fresh start. There are bound to be set backs but you should give yourself credit for doing what you've done.

As far as your mum is concerned that is very sad. It does sound like you'd be better off arranging something more formal (a cm?) if possible for your dd, and keeping your relationship with your mum separate?

I know it's a way off but this time next year you'll probably look back and realise how far you have come. It's really hard making new friends and you are doing the whole lp thing too, which is incredibly lonely. Maybe you could sort a babysitter and join a gym or do a class in the evenings, just for some grown up time.

I really hope things improve for you soon .

thank you for that - I have found a childminder - going to meet up with her this week on half term so hopefully she will be ok - I will have to sort out tax credits as well as I wont be able to afford a thing - It is amazing how low I can sick and so quick and yes Im sure Ive come a long way and I know I have a long way to goas well - as they say time is a great healer - hopefully Ill get a job sorted out soon enough and then things will look much brighter - Thanks for the support and kind words I really needed them