Any single parents in north london?

[honeypot01]

Hi

Anyone want to meet in north london? I'm in Enfield and have a 3 year old little boy. I'm available Thurs and Fri as i work Mon-Wed. Could take kids to local swimming pool or ball park. Be nice to meet some local single parents! Please can i have some replies! Hope to hear from some of you soon!

[honeypot01]

Evening how u?

Sounds like you've had a busy spending spree! I took Jordan to my friend's son's 5th bday party at Clown Town today. So noisy they had 3 parties on at the same time. My friend had a baby boy couple of wks ago, he's so tiny and lovely.

I'm going with work, every 18 mths they do a summer ball at a venue near one of the offices, this year Brighton and they pay for accommodation , in Hilton Hotel, so it 'll be nice. Going up by train with a few girls from work so should be laugh, and child free! My cousin Rob will be looking after Jordan for the weekend which he will love as they're taking him Paradise Wildlife Park in Broxbourne, he totally loves the tigers! Do you think your little mans ready to enter world any time soon??!!!

[prettyfly1]

OOOeeer that sounds fab. The only event my company organises is a ball at xmas, so how jealous am i - that sounds like you will have a wicked time mate.

I am not sure, certainly feel a bit odd. Have had lovely crampy pains for last couple of days and am much quieter then usual but other then that not really much to report. Just tryin to be patient wit it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How was your work today and how is your little one. I went to that park a few years ago and it is so much fun - he will totally love it and be spoiled rotten - lucky thing!

[honeypot01]

Evening, just got in from work, got 2 days hol which had to take from last yr otherwise il lose them so got rest of wk off! yippee!

of everyone i've known we've all described when you know the baby's gonna come as, you feel like you wanna go shit for days, not nice way to describe but the easiest way to know!!!! Sounds like he'll be here soon!! Hows ur sister getting on with new baby have u seen the baby much?

[prettyfly1]

i have, she seems to be doing ok - he is just a real little babe. tiny little fingers and he pulls the funniest faces. Sounds rotten but i have had a dodgy stomach for last twenty four hours which is apparently another sign of things speeding up. Oh well if he is his mothers son he will come when he is ready.

Wish you could knwo how jealous i am - i am just desperate to be at work - SO BORED!!!!!!!!!!!

[honeypot01]

You're still up too! i cant sleep so came on MSN, was chatting to my bruv, he's in Oz for a yr, went out in Feb. Sounds like your lil man will be here soon!! How exciting! !st few months won't really feel like you've got him, unless he's up every minute of the night. When he's here you wont want to go back to work, but if you can go back part-time like myself, you'll have the best of both worlds. You can CAT me if you like. Let me know when u had baby! Saw my friends baby yest, he's 10 days old, he's so georgous, he was 3 wks early, had breathing trouble when 1st born was in intensive care but now he's fine. My other mate today paid £110 to find out sex of baby, she's having a girl, after having 2 boys. She was having twins, but lost one a few months ago.
Hope alls ok with you. Beth x

[prettyfly1]

Hi mate -

cant sleep either so trying to just keep myself amused - baby is very very lively!! ( Driving me a bit mad actually double as i dont know what cat means or i would - can you explain.

[honeypot01]

CAT means contact another talker, if you click above in the grey box, you can email direct or mail me at [email protected]

Gonna take Jordan to nursery at 10am then im going to Harlequin in Watford with my mate. Hopew you av a good day hun! chat later x

[prettyfly1]

hello my lovely,

hope harlequin was good fun. Just been reading a book all day today so lounging really, trying to make the most of my last bits of free time. Does your ex p see the little one? how do you feel about that. Just wondering what i will do if my dx decides he wants to play daddy after all.

[honeypot01]

Morning!

No my ex doesnt see Jordan anymore, since we split when he was 20 mths, he saw him for a few mths after that but with me, then it started to fizzle away. No contact and no money. I see his family thou and they don't even see him, he just turns up to see them at Xmas! How long were you with your ex? i was with mine for 7 yrs. I know if i were you i wouldnt let him start coming in to be dad, if he hasnt be there throughout pregnancy, does have your tel no, know where u live? I moved and changed my mobile no, he knows roughly where i am. Jordan has plenty of male figures around him, as long as they've got that don't think they NEED dad. But do you think your ex is likely to go through courts or give u anything?

[prettyfly1]

wont give a damn thing - just have a funny feeling that at some point he is gonna start on access. how you doing anyway. i went to see my workmates today. miss them loads and just cant wait to get back to work!!!!!!!how sad am i l.o.l

[honeypot01]

hiya!

I thought u might've gone to have the baby!!! Obviously not! Once bubba's here u won't want to go back, but its nice if you go part-time, then you can do both.

Had my friends son round after he finished school, he was in a mood, very tired, he's only 5, Jordan kept asking him to play and whats wrong and he wouldnt answer- kids!!

Some blokes do go on about access, how long ago did u split up? If he doesnt show anything when baby's born prob unlikely he'll even bother. My ex is way out of the scene, luckily Jordan was born before the new parental rights came into effect. Don't know much about how it works, have u looked into it? R u going to give the baby your name on cert? Even thou i was with Jordans dad when i had him, i gave him my name, we were having troubles anyway, and i thought it was best, he weren't too pleased, but who cares what they think!! At the end of the day they're always gonna be with u, there was no way my son was going to have a diff name to me esp now im not even with his dad! Some men are right dickheads, think everything should go there way! Im in for tonight, my friend Dan is coming round tom morn to colour my hair and im going out tom eve for meal at Cafe Royal then tyo the club downstairs, should be a laugh. My mum n dad r looking after Jordan so thats nice. Bet you want little man to come now, how bout eating a hot curry, apparantly that can start labour off!!!

[prettyfly1]

oh my god yeas - i am so dying for him to turn up now. I tried cod liver oild yesterday but its so bad i just dont want to do it again! - tastes like the stuff they pack tuna in l.o.l - nice. Its kinda complicated with the ex. We were together for a long time when i was seventeen - he was my first love and in the end i moved to Devon for three years to get over it and he met someone else - whom he married and had a child with. When i came back he starting calling and stuff and got my number off our friend (we are in the same group of friends!) and i wasnt comfortable so i refused to have anything at all to do with him - but same friends convinced me it was time i let it go and give him a chance to be mates. Four weeks later i got v drunk at a friends house - he was sober and offered to take me home to my best mate and next thing i remember is waking up with him there the next day . I felt so cheap and horrible as well cause 1. i dont believe in cheating - i dont like his wife but neither her or her children deserve that and 2. i am teetotal normally which he knew so he knew that alchohol would hit me very hard - just saw an opportunity and took it. I dont want him on the birth cert because it does give him really strong rights and having known him for a long long time i do suspect that at some point ego alone will make him want to see his son. As far as i am concerned he is coming noone near him - Ciaran is the only good thing to come out of that night and he isnt going to hurt him as well!!!!!!!

On a much much lighter note sounds like you have a really good weekend planned. I cant wait for baby to be born so i can go out occasionally and its always nice to have your hair done and feel a bit spesh!!!!! Sounds like your sons friend was a bti of a handful? Was everything ok with him - normally when little boys are together they are a right nightmare!!!!!!!!

[honeypot01]

hiya!
Just got in, went to Enfield Town, got some new shoes and top for tonight, well i got paid today!! Jordan told me he had enough playing with me - meaning looking and trying on clothes! He wanted to go to the toyshop to get a new toy, so as he was good got him a scooby doo car. Does your ex's wife know that your aving his baby? I thought my ex was bad, i was with him for 7 yrs, again, since i was 18, every time tried to get away from him he wouldnt let me, would be harrassing all through the nite so you give in but aftyer Jordan was born had enough, so when i got my new flat, he stayed with me at temp accommodation i changed my mobile no, and he doesnt know where i am, his aunt does but she has promised not to tell him , so far he hasnt come knocking on my door.

The best thing to do is whats good for you and baby for for the ex. Do have a lot of support near you for babysitting etc, r ur family local? Hope all goes well, must be getting near, how long ago did u go on maternity leave? It seems to on longer when u give up early, i wrked up till 2 wks before due, and he was 4 days late!! My friend got married late last year, shes 5 mths ish preggas, when she was about 8 weeks, she lost a baby, she was expecting twins, she was really upset about it so she gave up wrk when only 3 mths gone. She's got 2 boys already from a previous relationship, but seems happy now.

Im sure everything will work out, can he contact you or know where u live? Hope all goes well, would love to meet after you've settled into motherhood with litlun, house your new house, all ready for the arrival?

[prettyfly1]

still havent moved in - the builders are still there. His wife doesnt knoe no - he was quite aggressive that she doesnt find out shall we say. I changed my mobile number and address and have blocked all his numbers and emails but he doesnt live far ( enfield) so he can find me quite easily. I just want him to leave my son alone - I have put up with his nonsense and been hurt by him enough - i wont allow him to do it to my son as well!!!!!!!!!He did the same as yours which is why i moved to devon for three years - I only came back when he was married cause i thought i would be safe and he would leave me alone

Sounds like you have spoiled yourself - go on mate you deserve it - is he happy with his car. Bless he is learning young how much fun it is not to go shopping with mummy. I have been off for three weeks today - went in yesterday to see everyone though which was lovely. Meeting up will be really nice. Just cant wait till my little monster is here and i can start planning stuff like that again - have a wicked evening mate!!!!!!!!!!!!

[honeypot01]

Hiya!

Sounds like you've had a tough ride too, im sure you'll come through it. I thought u had moved in, what r the builders doing, r they coucil ones or your own?

Got in about 4 this morn, stayed at mum and dads last night in Arnos Grove as they had Jordy, was up at 10 so didnt get much sleep. Took Hordan to hairdressers this morning, his hair grows so fast! Im going to my friends house from work tonight, she's having a party tonite and asked me to bring Jordan too. Last night was a really good night, have u been to Cafe Rot=yal, my boss was really surprised, she didnt know wot was going on, she was in tears. She's just turned 60, and her partner has left her after 20 yrs, he's 15 yrs younger than her so she's been a bit down, but she had a really good night. We bought a voucher for a pampering weekend where she take a friend with her and they stay overnight in a 4* hotel in Berkshire. Was a laugh but cost me £70 just last night! Well don't think il be going out much this month till pay day as not much left after food shopping and bills etc!

How r u today? U got much planned? pretty much just waiting now init! Hope little mans not late, imagine if he was 2 wks late! wot would u do with yourself? have u everything ready for him?

[honeypot01]

hi , me again!

I tried to msg u via the contact another talker but you dont allow msgs, i think they come straight to your email inbox - i guess so!! if you want to receive you can click on your member profile and change your setting to be able to receive and send msgs.

Hope to chat soon x

[prettyfly1]

aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh i wondered how that worked - i had been trying to send you one!!!!! . Sounds like you had a really good one - oh i am so jealous. Havent been cafe royal yet will definately be trying it out at some point but just not been out for ages. It has been tough but it is worth it, i was told i would never have a child so i am so damn lucky.

Saying that if he is two weeks late i will so not be a happy bunny!!! I have a real comedy bump already!!! Cant stretch much further!!!!

[honeypot01]

hiya!

I've gopt mine set to send and receive but seems that you haven't. I managed to send one to another girl, she's in Hatfield too, all the local ones seem to be up your end, not too far too go thou. When i preggas with Jordan i wasnt really that big till last 2 mths, im quite slim and tall, was annoying on train thou when people dont give up the seat for you. aah you poor thing, well at least your going to have litlun v soon. Hope goes well, il try again to msg u later, let me knowhen u can receive. av a nice day x

[prettyfly1]

hi poppett,

i have had it set to send and receive i think so hopefully it should work now - i will wait to see what happens when you try to send it through. It is really annoying and when people bump into you and glare at you i jsut want to murder them. I am 5 nine and a size 10/12 normally so i feel like a bloody whale at the moment.

[honeypot01]

Hiya!

Just got back, didnt stay too late at party as Jordan needs his bed and party was in Brookmans Park, so got my dad to take me and pick me up. She was teaching us how to do greek dancing, pretty funny.

I just sent you a ms, said its been sent, hope u receive it! Hope you've had a relaxing weekend and chat soon. xx

[prettyfly1]

hello mate - i did get it and i sent over a reply to you. I used to live just outside Brookmans Park - really nice area - glad you had a laugh.

Saw the evil ex today. Funny thing that he is. Hope you and Jordan are well!!!!!

[honeypot01]

hiya!

How do you receive it? does it come in your email inbox? as yet nothing.

Did you arrange to meet ur ex or bump into him? Does he have any thoughts on the baby, does he say that he's going to be in his life now? Hope wasn't stressful for you.

had bit lazy day today, Jordan just emptied his tin of shiny stars which he makes his sticking time pics with all over rug in his floor, guess whose gotta pic it up - me!!!

Hope your ok, don't let ex bother you. Anything planned for this week?

[prettyfly1]

yeah it just comes through to your inbox - ill try again!!

I went to see my friends at a pool match and he was there. He kept looking over but especially when my best mate turned up he was not going say a word to me - she scares the hell out of him. Not really stressed out by seeing him - just feel a little bit down maybe. I wish so badly things could be different. Once upon a time we were best friends as well as everything else - even when we split we could still talk about everything - even as late as last year - he phoned one night and we were chatting for three and a half hours and now when we really should try to get on things have gone too far and we cant. Just seems so sad that two people who once loved each other so much should grow so far apart really - and i feel sorry for my sonits not his fault and i have no idea how i will explain why daddy cant even be bothered to acknowledge him. Am i making any sense. I will be back to berating him for being the bastard he is tomorrow - just bothers me occasionally.

[honeypot01]

Hi ya!

Im sure in the long run you'll be ok, if he's already got a family then he doesnt want them to know doubt he's going to jeopadise that. Regarding telling your baby about daddy il have that prob too. I have asked Jordan occassionally do you have a daddy or do u want a daddy. His response wants, ive got grandad and my uncles, i dont need a daddy, i thought it was so sweet. He was watching Lion King the other week, dont know if you've seen it, when Simba's dad gets killed he said to me 'it's ok, he's got his mummy, he doesnt need his daddy.

He's got the right idea cos he dont need him! Everything will be just fine, if i can do it, im sure you can. As long as your sons got everything he needs, doesnt have to have all expensive clothes etc he'll be out of them in no time. Every now and again i have to go through Jordans clothes to see wots too small for him not as much as before but in the fist year they grow so fast. As long as he's warm, loved, fed, bathed you'll be just fine. Don't let ex come and spoil things for you cos babty will sense it, god im prob sounding like your mum now! im sorry!! Hope you have nice day tom, speak soon. xx

[prettyfly1]

Hey mate,

cheers for that - not sounding like mum at all - your little one sounds so gorgoeus. How cute is that.

Feel better today - think that y day was very very tired and suffering nicotine withdrawal which doesnt help - seeing him just got to me and normally i react better then that. It is hard with our lives being so intertwined but ill get used to it and at the end of the day - its his loss.

Hope you had a good day at work - I MOVE INTO THE NEW PLACE ON THURSDAY - YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!