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Anyone taken ex to court over child support?

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frogosaurus · 07/02/2009 19:14

After another maintenance assesment CSA have told me that ex doesnt have to pay any maintenance as he doesnt have enough income coming in to cover whats going out. I have not had a penny from ex for 7 years!! I know that he has more money than he is letting on as he has just bought a new house, car, he went abroad for christmas as well as other holidays and he is working. Can I take him to court to pay up? has anyone else tried it and suceeded? Thanks

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Harra · 09/02/2009 19:54

Hi,
These exs are very crafty at hiding their money. I am on a 2nd tribunal with xp all via the CSA at the moment.

If you are on legal aid it is worth a try. I think there is something called 'carers allowance' for kids.

However, when I asked my solicitor about doing something similiar to what you are suggesting, the amount you might get may not cover the cost of going to court etc. You may not win, though if you did your court costs might be covered. I chose not to go down this route. It is hugely stressful going to court and I had been through enough with access.

Sorry not much help. Might be worth seeing if you can get more advice from a solicitor - try the free 1/2 hour that some do.

Good luck.

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frogosaurus · 10/02/2009 16:55

I have been in touch with CSA to tell them that his new girlfriend and also his friend are now living with him and they said that he should have to start paying if he confirms this. So hopefully I will have some maintenance soon. Will go see a solicitor though for advice if nothing comes of it though. Hope all goes well for you Harra!

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Harra · 10/02/2009 18:18

I have written so many letters to the CSA, numerous phonecalls. My xp is supposed to pay £60 per week which takes into account that he has ds average 2 nights per week.

This tribunal is with the commissioner so it should end here. But my xp is a litigation lawer himself, choosing not to work (he has to look after ds!!!despite telling me to f* off back to work) and has 6-7 properties which he lets out (all at a loss for CSA purposes obviously and they all need major refurbs - so he has to put all his spare cash into them!! as if) and has a website business.

Next date for me is 27th Feb. Have managed to get some free legal representation via FRU. She can't believe he is quibbling about this amount when he has so much.

Thanks. Hope you get something soon. Letters to the Chief Exec of the CSA I found helped.

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frogosaurus · 11/02/2009 13:46

I just dont understand why these so called fathers dont want to provide for their kids. Its just soooo annoying!!

I will definately be writing if nothing comes of it this time and hopefully i will get somewhere with the Chief Exec.

Hope you get things sorted on the 27th.

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glitterfairy · 11/02/2009 19:21

Use you MP. After three years I now have some payments. THey are also supposed to be compensating me for the crap service I received. My MP was like a bulldog and didnt let it go.

Mumsnut · 11/02/2009 19:30

Who was your MP, Glitter?

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frogosaurus · 23/02/2009 19:15

CSA looked up the info i gave them about ex having others living with him and have worked out that finally after 7 years i will get £140 a month!! Then ex tells me on Saturday that he will be starting a new job soon, how will this affect my payments? Will they need to asses him again?

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Janos · 24/02/2009 19:10

I simply don't understand why men who have plenty of money begrudge giving what is, after all, all paltry amount (to them)in child support?

A colleague whose husband worked for the CSA told me that he was frequently dealing with men who were doctors, lawyers etc who endlessly tried to avoid paying maintenance.

It's absolutely shameful tbh.

Sorry frogosaurus not much help am I - lots of sympathy though!

LittleC4 · 10/03/2009 10:11

I'm wondering if anyone out there can help me. I have not received maintenance payments for my son from his father for over a year. He has since moved back to Australia ( his homeland) and still refuses to offer any financial support. Our son is 7 and I'm finding it increasingly difficult to support him alone. Does anyone know whether I have any hope in getting any money out of this 'deadbeat' or do I just have to accept that ,in the words of my ex less than an hour ago, " there are loads of single mums who don't get a penny and they manage "....

Pawslikepaddington · 10/03/2009 10:15

The only thing I can suggest is MP too-5 years down the line I still get nothing, so it is a long process (probably not helped in your case by him being in Oz). I always look at is as "this is my child, so I must support her-it is not his child, as he does not want to support her", and then anything I may get in the future is a bonus.

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