DD is doing the 'I want a daddy' thing again

[MascaraOHara]

she goes through phases where she really wants a dad.. I've asked if she wants me to get in touch with her 'real' (bio) father but she desperately doesn't want me to do that and I don't want to do that either

she wants a dad but not her dad iyswim

it's a phases that passes but I feel so sad for her sometiems

ah bless!
it's hard on kids sometimes especially when they see how things are for their friends with their dads
does she have any other good men in her life?
what about your NM?

how old is she?

Could you speak to teh school and see if they offer q mentoring service or could put you in touch with one.

That way she could be paired to a male mentor who could help her do the things she thinks daddy would do. go to the park, help with homework etc.

its only a couple of hours a week but it may be that she is just looking for a male role model.
if its something that comes up more than once i would imagin its quite a big deal to her

She has a great load of male role models in her life and who give her a lot of time and attention.. but she's right, it's not the same thing.. she's 6 and it's more about calling somebody daddy rather than the person doing paternal things (if that makes sense)

she's very close to my brother and dad.. also my ex (not her dad) still sees her regularly and both he and I have always said that he is pretty much been her father (as good as)

my NM is fantastic with her though to early days to say "hey, dd wants a dad. What dya think?"

She also has at least 3 male friends of mine who go out of their way to give her attention when we are out with them, give birthday/christmas presents etc

but, obviously there is still something missing for her. I normally just roll with it and it passes.. I say thing like well you've got special people like and and "you've always got who's like a daddy"

I don;t know.. it does keep coming up but I can't force a relationship for her. I think she wants to call my NM 'dad' but obviously that's not appropriate - at least in the short to medium term.

its a natural thing for a child
my dd has said things like this too but its a step-dad she wants as she thinks it would be quite cool
my dcs do still have their real dad in their lives
am glad to hear that NM is good with her

I think it's natural, esp. at this age when they are learning about families in school etc

tis a shame though.. I'm torn between pandering to her (but then her seeing it as a mechanism for attention) and just been fairly matter of fact about it (more my style but don't want to seem cold)

Have you thought of getting any children's book where a the child only has one parent? This is something I'm looking into for my DS

Have a look at this

www.amazon.co.uk/Do-Have-Daddy-Story-Single-Parent/dp/1885356633/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s =books&qid=1233060851&sr=1-1

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