POF

[PurpleOne]

again!

I mean how many hints do you have to drop to someone you are POFing...when you have the WHOLE weekend to yourself and quite willing to fit in a date?

I'm not asking. I'm def not asking for a change...would be nice to be asked. I am POFing 3 guys. All of them know I am alone for the weekend, none of them have asked me. I am not asking....yet I am sat here alone with a bottle of cider.

Does anyone ask a POFfer out for coffee? Everyone I asked out always ended in shit , so am letting them ask for now but they are not taking the bait. As it were.

What is POFing?

plenty of fish 'ing'
(dating site)

why dont you want to ask?

Lou, I've always done the asking. Nice to be asked sometimes!
I've always made the effort regards to asking men out/arranging dates/talking
on phone etc.

They all know I am kid free. Nobody has askeed me out.
Maybe Im just a sad fuck?

Off to bed

With dating sites, one has to accept that everyone is "fishing" and you are not going to get lucky every time.

You set everything to be right and with 3 people, you weren't lucky.

Keep on mind that some blokes do miss hints (I am one). Unless you tell me clearly and outright, I just don't spot the hint, and if the hint is that obvious, I think I am misunderstanding, because you didn't say it outright. I accept that I am talking for me and not other blokes.

I used POF ages ago and talking to more than one person was easy, trying to develop a relationship with more than one person felt awkward. Each to their own.

What did you have in mind, when you imagined going out?

If there are 3 blokes, one (or 2) has his children round, one (or 2) have to work and one has another date lined up (pre-dating your hints, then the "going out" is less likely to happen.

Also, if the blokes you are talking to life to far away or don't have a car or are skint in Jan because it's after Christmas, there could be more of a reason to not go out - they can't get to you or can't afford to go out.

One plan that went wrong is the first of several attempts.

I can't claim to have met 100's of women off POF, of the few I did meet all were intresting to meet, but most meets didn't go further than the first meeting.

If you haven't met these people before and you were hoping that "a stranger" (someone you know about but never met) would take you out on a date, you might be better off expanding your "first date" to other options. Perhaps a walk in a park, a coffee or tea somewhere, to make the first meeting shorter and more accessible. If the first meeting goes well, them aim for more.

i have had a couple of dates based around tescos lol

oh don't get Lou started lol!
Purple its all a minefield tbh
have just started the whole process again myself!

Has anyone tried face book speed date? I just used it to check messages and winks. Clicked on the 'start speed dating' today and it's fun. Profiles come up and some are on line to chat.

Went on a date on Thursday with someone who lives just up the road from me off speed date. He took me to an Italian impromtu, pity I'd already eaten. Seeing him again.

thats interesting to know
and he sounds alright too
well done you
and keep us posted!

ASBM, Speed date is hillarious, you should join. So far a guy in Holland wanted cam sex and another, brit, wanted to show me his cock. JEEZ!! I'm sure there must be some non perverts on it. New guy is nice but it's not special.

that kind of behaviour is not limited to speed date

It's the first time I've come across it! No pun intended. You'd have to be desperate, surely?

ooh how lovely!
there's enough perves on normal sites and thou i found it mighty amusing at first the novelty has somewhat worn off now
its back to the old separating the wheat from the chaff crap

I must have lead a sheltered internet life so far. Never had any cock pics or cam sex yet!! I'm so uninterested in that sort of caper. It's a den of vice for the depraved .

well i haven't lol
i just wish that i could get hunting on mine have had that HTTP fault thing popping up all day

Oh no! you must get that sorted soon. The novelty has worn off speed date for me after oh one day. Still worth a look when totally bored.

have been trying lol!
i probably will sometime
probably when a few worse for wear!

Let me know how you get on on it.

i would if i could use the fcuk search options
i have been having trouble with thatHTTP 400 thing today
desp need to block all the tossers from last time
amusingly my exbf is on there
sadly he has failed to tick the 'emotionally unavailable'box on his details so another poor woman's life will be messed up
guy i also went out with but i treated as a friend rather than bf is on too
seriously regret letting him go so wondering whether to send wink/message?

If you are seriously regretting letting him go then wink. The photos are only thumbnails so he might think you don't know it's him. But if he's regretting it too he will respond. A win win situation.

Yeah my ex is on POF. Wouldn't you just love to be able to post a comment something like, run a mile ladies, he will promise you the earth then bugger off. lol, I'm over it now.

i am really tempted to but i think that sadly he has made his mind up about me based purely on a misunderstanding
we had such a great time together too and are very alike
oh the more recent exbf!
couldn't give a flying one about him
he has serious issoos
am tempted to send a message
but then i might look bovvered when i'm not

I know what you mean as it comes across as being bothered. Depends though. I sent mine an email to tell him how things are going great, new job etc and new hot man!!

He didn't reply but still made me feel better. Guess it's the wrong thing to do if you want to get them back but we'd gone beyond that. Closure felt good.

yes my best m8 said send a message of the 2 fingered variety
i have changed my id and still have no pic
also slightly altered my details but not to deceive iyswim
i can betcha they'll both look thou!
closure is very important indeed
a friend of mine waited nearly a year to get hers over one of those noble types who disappear into thin air