Husband told me after argument yesterday he'd resigned from his job & was leaving us. I said he had financial responsibilities but he implied if he decided to get another job at all it wouldn't be one at the same level. He ate lunch with us but this evening i found an email he sent this morning (although he works from home...) saying he was leaving us in a month and i'd better take legal advice to protect me and the children. Could be a bluff, he's said he's leaving several times before and once told me he'd written to his lawyer about a divorce but the following week said it was a bluff just to "give me a taste". I don't work and couldn't get an equivalent job here as we moved from London after ds1 was born and i wanted to look after the children til school age anyway. Big old house, currently in middle of major repairs, huge mortgage, in joint names but most of deposit paid with money i saved working before kids. I would probably lose all 10 years of savings if we had to sell the house now. Have moved too many times anyway to want to move again, especially with baby due in 3 months. Husband wouldn't care about losing house, not materially motivated. Re children - says he never wanted them anyway. Besides the finances, I have temporary mobility problems (stick / crutches) due to a pregnancy complication. He has never been much of a helper or wanted anything of a family life with us but i rely on him at the moment to help get toddler up / down the 60 stairs in our house morning and evening. Not long in this area so no proper friends here to talk to. Any advice / info esp re husbands obligations much appreciated.