What happened when you went into labour??

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I am technically still with my boyfriend but he is being a real jackass recently. When we argue he strops off and I dont see or hear from him for however long. We argued at the weekend and I haven't heard from him even though I went to the maternity unit on Monday night in pain.

I live on my own and have no family in London and I was wondering what is gonna happen when I go into labour. I dont want to be alone.

Were any of you alone when you went into labour and what happened??

I dont have the money. I live alone and pay all the bills. My mum and boyfriend are supposed to be my birth partners but my mum lives 2 hours away and my boyfriend is unreliable.

I wasn't alone though I didn't have my ex with me. Do you have a friend you can ask who will be more reliable that your ex?

If you really can't have anyone with you make sure you fill in the form about your wishes during the birth etc. It can be difficult to make a decision or give an answer when you are actually in labour. And some things they simply don't ask you, like the injections they routinely give to both you and the baby. I put on my form that I didn't want this and made sure the midwife was fully aware.

Think now about what you want and speak to your midwife about your concerns and how to ensure that your wishes are noted and carried out as far as possible by the midwives at the birth.

Best wishes
Gilly

I'm going to be alone in labour too so I sympathise.

I would love a doula but I can't afford it either. If I was you, I'd choose a friend as a back up in case your mum can't get to you.

I was alone when I went into labour.I didn't have any close friends nearby and had no contact with ds's dad for most of my pregnancy. It was fine, honestly.

I called the hospital as soon as my contractions started, just to warn them that I was on my own and I might not want to stay home for too long. I was ok though, stayed at home for a few hours then called a taxi and went to the hospital. I called my parents on the way and they drove down, they lived about 3hrs away and arrived just before I had ds. You wont be alone even if you don't have a birth partner, the midwife stayed with me even though they were really busy that night and tbh I wish my mum had arrived after ds was born, she really ruined it for me. I still haven't forgiven her for cutting the umbilical cord even when I said "no, please don't do that".

The taxi driver was brilliant, his wife had had a baby at the same hospital just the week before so he knew how to get in and took me right into the ward.

Good luck, you'll be fine!

Just wanted to say that a trainee doula costs a LOT less than a recognised one, and if you really cannot afford that, there is a hardship fund [http://www.doula.org.uk/content/duk/doulauk/Hardship_Fund.asp look here] HTH

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Talk to your midwife about your concerns, I am on my own and mine is always asking if I am ok and if I need extra support/anything (a gun for the ex made her laugh) if there are other mums in your area she may put you in touch?

I was sorta alone as in didnt have anyone to support me. My folks live 2 hrs away and I know my Mum wouldn't want to be there anyway. My friend was supposed to be with me but I went into early labour while in hospital (I was expecting to be induced/CS, so would of been a planned day) It was late at night, she had had a drink so couldnt drive but did come to the hospital with my son and her son drove. My doctors were going to transfer me to another hospital as there was no room in SCBU so everything was up in the air. I finally said for her to go home at gone 12 as her son had work very early in the morning.

My son stayed with me but more to be able to ring folks etc, he was also supposed to be bringing my hospital/labour/baby bag in but forgot . Docs decided I was too far in labour to be transferred so kept me there and DS2 was born very quickly with just me and midwife there. He caught them on the hop as there was supposed to have been two Midwives and a Peaditrician there

DS1 was in the (big)room and just sat doing his crossword. I hadn't intended for him to be there but he just followed when they took me to delivery and parked himself down. Think the Midwife was a bit perplexed and did tell him to leave whenever he wanted but he just stayed lol. Midwife smothered him a bit after lol bringing HIM sandwiches and tea

For me because everything happened so fast and I had a few medical issues I wasnt left alone at all. I didnt have time to think I was on my own. I'm sure If you explain there is no-one available to be with you they will make sure your not left if at all possible

i had ds1 by myself. my now husband was in plymouth and i was in scotland when i went into labour. my friend drove me to local hospital but they said that they wouldn't deliever baby but there was an ambalance to take me to maternaty ward in glasgow( about 26 miles away).my friend had to follow in car. i had ds1 before she made it to hospital and the midwifes stayed with me and were great.i had a very quick labour. ds1 father made it up to me by 4pm. i had given birth at 7am. my husband was with me just( he's in the navy hence only being around to concieve!! and not to watch the pain) when i had ds2. i felt much more tense and enjoyed being by myself more(you get pampered better rather than midwifes trying to pass it onto partners!!)
good luck you'll not be the first or last to have child by yourself