Think I may have put him off by making it sound like hard work

[wintercitylover]

Very basic internet dating issue.

Been chatting to guy online (he is single but 40ish) he asked to meet so fine I said ok when and where? He came back with a day.

I realise (due to my limited availability) that I prob should have suggested a day and time etc

Cos I then replied backsaying not easy to meet in the weekday evenings because would have to get babysitter, could do lunchtimes in the week, or every other sat. Blah Blah Bit like in those 80s films when people said I will find you a window!!

Finishing up with a jokey bit about well if that hasn't put you off

Thing is it prob has hasn't it? he's read the mail thought omg how complicated and run for the hills (as we on mumsnet like to say).

Shame cos it was instant attraction on my part. Suppose if he is really interested it wouldn't put him off.

Anyway he's not he only iron I have in the fire (lol) and I have similar probs with the other trying to meet up. It's not that easy.

At least if it hasn't put him off he is going into it with open eyes.

Better that he understands now that your kids come first and if he wants to get involved with you he will have to fit in around them

sorry I managed to post twice - discussion is running on other thread.

Yes I agree if they are put off at the beginning what would they be like later when you can't just drop everything. Spontaneity has gone. I don't think you can appreciate that until you have kids.