When they prefer alcohol over their kids?

[MrsSnape]

How do you cope knowing that your children's father prioritises going out and getting pissed over hid kids?

He's supposed to have the kids every fortnight but every weekend he tells me he has no money to take them anywhere, yet that same night he'll post on facebook "can't wait till tonight, I'm so getting pissed!" etc so obviously he has money somewhere??

It pisses me off so much.

same here but try and tell him that cannot see it - drinkes every day in pub but no money for kids, drinks every sunday ut too busy to have them for the day !!
Doesnt think it is a problem - his bloody loss they are fab kids !!!

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It's so frustrating isn't it? I just can't work them out, what must go through their head?

"I see my sons only once a fortnight...should I take them to the cinema/bowling/Mcdonalds....no better not, or I won't have enough money to go out getting drunk on Saturday night"

I mean, what's wrong with THE PARK for gods sake? A ride to the sea-side would cost what, a tenner in petrol? take a packed lunch to avoid expensive chip shops... but no, god forbid they spend their money on anyone but themselves

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Oh god I've had that too! This was when he was living with his ex though who also had two kids.

"Make sure they've had some dinner because we have nothing in and no money"

Nothing in the house and no money to buy anything yet they have two kids themselves to feed and a big sports car parked outside?? please!

I have this too. Asked my ex for some help for our daughter's school trip but was shot down in flames about how much she is struggling, how she has to be SO careful, how I don't understand etc etc

Week later she tells me she's off to a xmas do, the ticket of which was about the same price as the school trip....not to mention drinks etc.

Makes you wonder doesnt it!

I have same problem as Aimsmum my ex is a gambler and thinks nothing of giving his whole wage to the bookies.He only sees the ds's at mine for about two hours a week and will never take them out and wouldnt dream of having them overnight because there is no way im allowed a social life.

Best thing is he lives to come in and criticise my parenting skills.

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Snap with my Ex.

We had "lunch box gate" when I got so fed up of him leaving half eaten yogurt in DS's lunch after he looked after him that I told him I was no longer able to provide DS's lunch. Ex turned up at my (new) work with DS in buggy as he DIDN't have any money to buy DS lunch. This from a man who practially lives in the pub and is definitely at least a borderline alcoholic. I gave in and am providing lunches again as don;t want DS to go hungry.
Ex was moaning yesterday about having no money, wasn't able to give me full amount of maintenance this month, yet talks about the nights out he has and freqents expensive bars.

He is 35 years old and freqently is unable to use his phone as "no credit"

Is very crap. Given the choice I would give up buying a bottle of wine (weekly essential treat) in a second for DS but ex cannot connect his over spending / dependence on alcohol and the fact that he never has any money