solidgold, you are a breath of fresh air. It's so refreshing to see someone who doesn't give a damn about being single. Don't think I'd like to get on the bad side of you though ()
spooky, listen to aseriousblondemoment. There are all sorts of people in this world, but truly decent people accept that anyone with children comes with those children as part of the package. There's no room for jealousy and resentment. It's a non-issue. I am not underestimating the complications that having children can impose on a new relationship, but they are to be viewed as challenges to be overcome, NEVER baggage. Anyone who sees your children as baggage is a person you should steer well clear of.
I met my ex-husband at 18. He had a 4-year-old son living with him. While I won't deny that I occasionally got frustrated at the limitations this placed on us and I look back now and realise I could have done a lot more as a step parent, I never felt resentful about my XH's son or wished he wasn't in the picture. I felt privileged that I had been allowed entry into this family and always accepted that, as a child, my ex's son had to come first. Any man worthy of you will feel the same about your DC. If they don't, get rid of them.
And I'm sure you don't look vile.
I seem to remember that you're juggling being a single mother with trying to study for a university degree. Do you have any idea who worthy of admiration that makes you? You are clearly a very capable, determined person, and to do all this at the age of 21 makes you even more outstanding. One day you'll meet a man who sees you for what you are. Until then, anyone put off by your circumstances is someone you're really better off without.
Sorry to hijack but I hate to see good, strong people talk so low about themselves.