Maintenance question

[Peckarolloveragain]

I have a 9 year old. I get £35 a week from her dad.

Anyone know what the csa rate would be?

he is on 25k, has no other kids and sees him once or twice at weekends

He is witholding maintenance so think i might have to go down this route.

I get £240 monthly maintenance through CSA, as ex said he only could afford £40 a week yet his earlings are 25k. They worked out obviously that he should be paying more. They do also take their circumstances into account such as outgoings for mortgage, rent, etc. But def go down that route if you think he's not paying enough, and won't cough up.

Can I ask do they take debt into consideration? As in ex claims he has debt coming out of his ear so can't pay more due to this. The arrangement we have is the currently not through the CSA. He does not see DS.

SameAsYou - I believe they take into account any debts which were taken on while you were together which were for the benefit of the family.

Thanks FAQ

np I only know that as exH took out some loans when we were togheter which I know have huge repayments, unfortuantely taking out loans to try and set up a family business apparently isn't "for the benefit" of the family - so they've refused to adjust his payments to take them into account

(I on the other hand know that they were taken out to benefit ths family.......although the business fell flat on it's face so nothing actually came of it - so I'm being more lenient towards him for now )

Anarchy: in my msg I never implied that the ex knows best how to spend the money. You misread my post.

I'm just proposing another way to get more money into FAQ's pockets for items she needs to raise their dc without going to the CSA and ending up worse or having to wait months for any payments at all.

If it were me I'd rather put food on the table and clothes on my dc than give a flying F what ex thinks.

not me snoopy . - I'm getting my maitanence (albeit not what CSA thinks he should be paying at the moment) and my exH doesn't give a flying fig what I spend it on (for example just before Christmas I got the money off him the day he had the DS's for the weekend, I ordered pefect pizza for myself and he fully approve )

If a man doesn't want to pay money towards the upkeep of his DC it is almost never due to genuine concerns about how it will be spent - it is more likely to be about control, or spite. Neither of which are valid reasons for withholding maintainance.

Why should anyone settle for vouchers for a supermarket, or allow their ex to vet the contents of their weekly shop? As a PWC the decisions about how to spend the money are yours. I'd rather go without than have my ex peering over my shoulder to check I am spending the money wisely.

Once the money is paid to the PWC it is theirs to do as they see fit with - nobody has the right to tell them how it must be spent. A man who thinks he does have this right is evidently struggling with the boundaries of what is and isn't his business, and what is and isn't his money.

Ah, sry FAQ, It's a good thing I'm not the CSA or no money would get round to no one [grin}

Anarchy, yes, I do see your point but I beg to differ: I didn't mean to say that it was in any way acceptable that her ex is a controlling tight-walletted arse. I meant to point out he should pay for more, anything really as it's his dc, too. I didn't mean he should vet the trolley or anything, just pay for the goods or give extra vouchers. Ahh, I guess I'm too naive when it comes to vicious exes. I understand what you mean though and agree it's up to the resident parent to decide where money is needed and for what. I just thought that before there's no money at all I'd rather aquiesce and get whatever I can get.

As long as peck receives the £££ I think the way how she gets it doesn't matter.