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Exh appears to have given false address - how now to secure maintenance?

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dimblesmurphy · 09/01/2009 00:32

I was all ready to seek legal advice on Monday regarding divorce, maintenance, finances etc
However, a quick search shows that the flat exh says he was living in does not appear to exist.
What on earth can I do? He knows what I want it for and will now definitely refuse to give it to me. He is not really in contact me anyway and never sees the dcs. This is the second attempt at him giving the address. I was also going to give it to the debt collectors he has kindly left behind for us and his debts.
Does this mean I shall have to approach the CSA for the maintenance part? How then can I sort out the rest of this mess?

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Tinkerbel6 · 09/01/2009 12:21

Contact the CSA and give them his work details, if he avoids maintenance they can do a deduction order on his wages, hope you get some money.

Lauriefairycake · 09/01/2009 14:43

You might need it for other reasons than CSA - I wouldn't ask but would follow him home from work

N1 · 09/01/2009 18:25

If you add the CSA into someone's life, they might add stress and distress into yours. I am aware of a few mother who were living ok, not well off but surviving. For one reason or another, they went on benefits, and the CSA got involved. The mother(s) get about £20 to £30 extra a week but all are now involved in court proceedings for contact or shared residency. Each case is unique and in most cases I can't see much of a problem apart from a father that wanted to walk away. It wouldn't be my personal choice of action if I were the fathers in the cases.

In one of the few cases I know about, the father almost let the child get run over by a car.

Adding the misery that the CSA cause in some people's lives might turn out to be more of a regret than a help.

A DEO is not a guarantee. A parent who doesn't want to pay, won't.

mummypumpkin · 09/01/2009 20:06

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N1 · 09/01/2009 20:29

and when the ex gets cornered and can't get out of paying, would he roll over and give up or get mad and try to get even? (keeping in mind that he objects to paying)

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