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Original poster

Single with kids dating. Have to upgrade to full membership to read message. Grrr!

31 replies

Tortoise · 08/01/2009 22:14

Joined last night.
Got a message tonight but if i try to read it i get a message saying i need to upgrade to full membership, which costs.
Bloody annoying! I want to read my message!

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MeNmyGirl · 08/01/2009 22:18

hi same thing happened to me before to,..they say 100% free,..but they arent,..the only one i use now is www.plentyoffish.com its totally free,..but maybe not a good as the paying sites i dunno,..i refuse to pay for them lol

Goodluck x

aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/01/2009 22:21

tortoise
which one is it?
and do they offer you a pass on your mobile for a short period?
gives you a feel for the site iykwim

grumpalina · 08/01/2009 22:25

Same situation here but I wondered if it was the company themselves sending a message so you would sign up properly and pay??? I didn't want to join and was just messing around so have put absolutely no info about myself yet have got loads of messages. Can't believe someone is that desperate that they will send message to a complete unknown. Even if they are genuine it would put me off.

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Tortoise · 08/01/2009 22:26

Tried POF but wasn't keen on it.
Thought Singlewithkids was free too apart from certain searchs etc not that i wouldn't be able to read my messages.
Now i really want to know what it says and who it is from!
£4.99 for a month.

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Tortoise · 08/01/2009 22:28

grumpalina Good point. it could just be that.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/01/2009 22:29

have had that thought too grumpalina
so did you go on out of curiosity/boredom?
and yes you'd be surprised lol!!
i didn't do it seriously no pic/crap profile
and the messages flooded in!!

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Tortoise · 08/01/2009 22:32

Just thought i would give it a try. Fed up of being on my own! I have put a pic and brief profile on.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/01/2009 22:33

mmg asked you this before but i looked at your site and it said messages etc charged for
unless im having one of my pen names lol!!
i dont think £4.99 steep tbh
why did you go for this one?
heard that match doing a 72hr freebie at the mo

aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/01/2009 22:34

god brave you
was too scared to put pic on

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Tortoise · 08/01/2009 22:36

Was mentioned on MN.
Have a profile on Match(just the free part), smooch and POF too!
Joined those a year ago and not had many messages.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/01/2009 22:39

i went on frd
found it good
have you had any dates?

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Tortoise · 08/01/2009 22:41

frd?
Nope no dates! Hardly any messages and none i liked the look of.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/01/2009 22:46

friends reunited dating
only was on for very short time
and yes got messages in first 24hrs but they were genuine
they did a 5day pass via your mobile for £5 i think
so the £4.99 for a month looks good

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Tortoise · 08/01/2009 22:47

Ah right, not looked at that one yet. Might do at some point.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/01/2009 22:51

yes you'll get alot of serial shaggers
but met lots of lovely men to chat to
and met up with two men
one of whom im still seeing now

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Tortoise · 08/01/2009 23:08

Thats good. I hope to meet some one day.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/01/2009 09:34

tortoise
believe me you sodon't!!
i admit i chortled away at some of it for a while
i could literally have had a different man every day for the first week that i was on there
think some of them see divorced women as sex crazed for some reason...!!

sleepingwiththeenemy · 09/01/2009 09:49
Grin
aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/01/2009 09:51

hehe!!LOL
xx

haidee · 09/01/2009 19:19

Hi Tortoise,
Single With Kids is one of the only dating sites that is actually up front about their membership charges - I had to dig very long and deep to find out how much some of the others were charging for the month, they only told me once I got sucked in. The monthly cost at SWK is advertised on the front page and they even give a comparison against other sites - you can get 3 months for under a tenner, most sites cost more than this for a month.

I know a few people who've tried POF and the problem with free sites are they attract timewasters (and a few weirdos too), that doesn't say it won't work for you, you just have to try a bit harder. The sites that charge are usually the ones that have proper moderation in place, check messages and control the site better rather than leaving it just a free for all. Whether you pay or not really depends on how keen you are to start dating, but compared to going out to the pub for a few drinks or other ways of meeting people, online dating is good value.

N1 · 09/01/2009 19:55

ok cupid is free and dating.co.uk as well. I refuse to pay as well.

An intresting site is interodate, but the blokes have to pay.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 09/01/2009 20:28

out of interest N1 what kind of women have you met on free sites?

maidenvoyage · 09/01/2009 21:18

Hi if you join girlsdateforfree it is exactly what it says. You can chat, email etc. I met someone on there and we were together for a year. Its over now but think there are some genuine people on there

good luck

x x x

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Tortoise · 09/01/2009 23:46

xp uses that girlsdateforfree one. So i will avoid that!

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N1 · 09/01/2009 23:55

ummm. I met a really good girlfriend on interodate. We went out for about 18 odd months and then separated. That was a good relationship. For the 18 odd months the relationship was good. At the point of separation, there were to many changes all to quick, so the split was better.

After that, I met about 4 women, 3 of the 4 were really good people but the relationships were long distance, so maintaining a starting relationship was forced to end.

I am back to being single again, with not much desire to see what's about. It's got to the point where I think I am an ok person but the constant drain of costs for divorce (5 years and counting and still not over) makes me unattractive. The ideal person for me now is someone who has loads of debt....so we can be together in debt - how mad is that.

I would use internet dating again, I think it is worth while, but you need tome and patience.

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