its a sort of mediation for seperated families going through the court system.
ok longer story is, dd has not seen 'him' for about 2 and a half years off her own back, i have not tried to stop her going whatsoever. When he came to pick her up she went to the door and told him she did not want to go. He said thats fine maybe next time, eventually after about 3 months of this he stopped turning up. About 12mnths later i get a letter from his solicitor saying i had stopped the contact, i kept saying dd was ill or making up excuses. We retaliated and sent him a list of all the times he did not turn up or dd had said she didnt want to go we heard nothing back until around june last year, then it was a court summons that came through. The court ordered that we go to cafcass.
At the time i was 7 and a half months pregnant, cafcass is around 6 miles away from my house there is never anywhere to park and a 2 mile walk from the town center is not rare.
Mr cafcass man called me in, ok fine we talk, mr cafcass calls him, mr cafcass calls me in again 4 days later, mr cafcass man then calls me in again 5 days later, mr cafcass man then wants t do a home visit which wasnt a problem but on the day he was supposed to come dd fell face first onto the pavement and had split lip bloody nose etc so wasnt in the mood for talking, mr cafcass asks me to bring dd in 2 days later, i say yes ok but on the day dd2 and ds's school phone me to say both have the runs, i phone mr cafcass and say i will still bring her but it wont be possible to stay to long as little ones are in the car with dh (he would take me to avoid the walk). He saw dd for 20 minutes. Next came the court report, he stated that i cancelled the home visit and cut short the next, the court clerk told my solicitor that she hopes her client will be more co-operative next time. Yet another court report to be done.
38 weeks pregnant I get called in yet again he talks then wants me back next week i say not a chance it will have to wait until i have had the baby, she was due the 17th aug so i said the middle of sept thinking she would be about 4 week old and i would be feeling ok, as it turned out she was 10 days overdue and was a very traumatic birth which shook me up some. when she was 2 weeks old (middle of september) he phoned and said will you make it up to see me? I said no im not very well after the birth she is only 2 weeks old blah blah blah he said oh do you know when you will be better? I said no but he phoned twice more that week. Then we had another court case that called for more time on the cafcass report.
November i agreed to go back up there so did and talked again, then he wanted me to take dd up to have a contact session with him, not cafcass man, and we watched it from behind a two way mirror, the session didnt go very well dd did not want to be there and spent the whole time yelling you did this you did that to him (things he had done during visits) he denied it obviously which wound dd up more as he was lying. Anyway it wasnt a good visit.
Part 2 is to come but my laptop batery needs charging so will update in a sec. Sorry its so long!!!