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Original poster

so when do things get better with the ex?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/01/2009 22:00

it's just a thought really..
I have no feelings whatsoever for my exh and if it wasn't for the dcs would never have seen him again
But as we're both parents of them I just want to hear how all you others MNers get on with yours
I find mine nice one day and an unreasonable arse the next
A bit like walking on eggshells i guess...

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 13:39

haha - know that feeling. trying to stop thinking of the other guy and the NEARLY hot sex but lots of lust and snogging and trying to get him out of my head cos its pointless.
lack of sex is the pits isnt it! funny cos I had it on tap for 14 yrs, but didnt want it then (prob cos he was an arse lol), but NOW! GIMME!!!

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 13:45

no not a hijack!!
just wondered what you were up to as we're both in the same sex-starved boat LMAO

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 13:51

no I suppose not a hijack, seeing as it was you who started the thread lol!

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 13:54

yeah and as it's such a terribly depressing subject we needed to lighten the mood a little pmsl!!

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 13:56

ah, can I just say - we are sex starved, but at least we arent still with ex's and having to shag them!
oooh, that is enough to actually make me feel good at having no sex for ages

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 13:59

yeah all that lying back and thinking of England lol!!

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:02

or pretending to be too tired

I do keep thinking of my mate (and his mate too, but we wont mention that), so I think thats a good thing. bless him. I miss his texts etc, and keep thinking of something funny to text him so we can have our litte text convos..

will have to meet up with him soon and explain about the mess my head is in a bit better, and the whole relationship issue..

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 14:07

or having a headache
oh ffs text him now ratbunny as you so want too lol!!
and might be inclined not to explain head mess just yet or he might back off he is after all a man

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:10

you know, he was very kind at new years. he was sober and I was pissed (good combination) and he told me he understands that I need time and space, and no pressure and that he realises my head is fucked at the mo. that is why I am trying to be so honest with him. but its hard to be honest when you dont know what the truth is...

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 14:15

I can't remember whether you said or not
but does he know that you got off with his mate?
or did he see
if he did then he is kind and understanding and deserving of being treated nicely

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:17

I think he saw!
oops.
which is why I am so keen not to lead him on and to be totally honest.
what can I txt him? god, I am so stuck!
its like being 19 again. in a good way. and with mobile phones

ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:20

but I dont want to lead him on. I do keep thinking of him, and get excited when he texts. I dont want to lose his friendship. I am quite up for a shag, as long as it doesnt change anything (and it might do in my messed up head at the mo). and I am not ready for a relationship, but when I am he would be a nice person to have a relationship with. But I do believe it would only be short term, not a life-lasting relationship. I dont think he is 'the one' iyswim.
ffs, I do overthink dont I.
lots to talk to my counsellor about anyway

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 14:23

OMG no!!!
a simple how are you?i guess
and yeah its hideous but i quite like the feeling of being 19 again as so much of my adult life was wasted with the exh arse!!
see, all those smug marrieds don't have half as much fun as we're doing right now lol!!
and i do so love my mobile
all those saved texts and pics

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:27

I know! I havent had this much fun for ages. well 14 yrs to be precise!
all this love sick mooning and confusion is actually quite enjoyable
I can remember on new years, getting all worried about snogging his mate, and sitting there thinking what do I do? etc etc. Then just sitting back with a massive grin on and thinking - this is FAB! lol
and def lots of saved texts. might go read one now. lol

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 14:33

yeah do will make you
I so love to perve look thru mine
and out of interest and er common sense when should i delete them and those pics of the other two lovlies that i still have?
advice needed lol!!

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:34

just sent him one

just said I keep thinking of him and hope I havent fucked everything up. and lets have a beer soon.
fuck.

ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:35

do you have a proper bf at the mo? if so,prob best to delete the other guy's texts and pics
if not, and they make you feel good, keep them!

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 14:45

yeah i do have proper BF
the one i spent the other nite with
know that i should delete mr hot sex's hot sexy texts and equally hot pics
the other lovely is a guy i never got together with as needed help from my mate and he didnt approve of me having a relationship with him
but i have nice pic of him all the same
maybe i should just give it a bit longer eh?
that was a brave text
how you feeling now?
has he replied?
my BF is crap with his phone that's just how he is
mr hotsex text/rings all day long
i have to recharge it a couple of times a day

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ninah · 04/01/2009 14:46

good luck
and pmsl at love sick mooning, I have just dropped mine back at his and am feeling really aaah, feeble

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 14:48

Ah bless!!

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ninah · 04/01/2009 14:50

I really had a lovely new year, I wouldn't have thought he was my type in the slightest going on physical appearance etc but I am totally head over heels. Now I need to take a reality check and stop getting all needy on him. It's so scary letting go!

ratbunny · 04/01/2009 14:53

he hasnt replied yet, but he does tend to be a bit slack about these things. I am in danger of sending him a rambling facebook message along the lines of I really like you and cant stop thinking about you, but cant get into a relationship right now, but if I could it wold be with you.
not sure if its a good idea. dont want to fuck things up, but so want him to know I AM into him.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 14:55

how does he feel about you ninah?
and the reality check thing comes with our age/crap experiences of crap men!!
i have distance as my means of not finding myself falling for my BF yet..
i take it that yours lives locally?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/01/2009 15:00

ratbunny don't
ramble on here instead
it's much better for you
and gives us all much needed relief too
he knows that you're into him so the ball's in his court now
and i know its hard
but give him space and keep yourself busy
xx

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ratbunny · 04/01/2009 15:03

I am not so sure he does know. I think I have spent all my texts have focussed on not leading him on.
Its shit isnt it, this love sick mooning (lol, I am going to use that phrase as much as I can!), but also it puts a grin on my face.

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