how can i get xh to stick to his contact arrangements?

[daisydaisy55]

xh seems to pick & choose when he feels like having dd for the night - this week he left us standing on the pavement bags in hand. we've so far agreed that he has her 1 night a week. god knows what dd must think of all this. call me selfish, but i do look forward to my 1 lie in and a few hours to myself, dont feel that i can plan anything cos he is so unreliable. he is admittably 'ill' but still has responsibilities as her dad. is there anything legally i can do to give him a kick up the behind?

unfortunately not, but I wish the law would change to allow you to!!

there is a new law coming soon about parents and responsibilities, but it appears to be labours old carrot stick ethos that doesn't really work for us but more for them, if either parent doesn't keep their responsibilities, they can be fined and the money goes to.....?????

I don't know, this is a difficult onecos to get what you want and feel is right, your child may end up being hurt more although being left on the pavement is hurtful enough. it goes against everything I argue for, but have you tried saying NO contact for a while to see if that gets him kicked suitably up the ar*e?

hopefully now this has been bumped, someone else can give you better thoughts?