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I think I've found a nice man! [grin] Too good to be true?!

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BobDowne · 15/12/2008 21:33

I only met him just over a week ago, had 4 dates already and I'm walking around in a complete daze.

Somebody slap me!

He seems really lovely, I'm just worried that I'm about to find out something awful about him any day now and I'll be all bitter and heartbroken just in time for christmas.

Or I could just enjoy being loved up and stop whinging!

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BobDowne · 15/12/2008 22:02

Hello? Any reassuring words please anybody?

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UnfortunatelyMe · 15/12/2008 22:37

Enjoy being loved up...details details, we need details, where did you find this man?

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BobDowne · 15/12/2008 23:05

Found him on the internet!
He actually first sent me a message over a year ago but i couldn't afford to subscribe at the time so couldn't reply. Found him again recently on loopylove.
I wasn't that keen at first, we emailed for a few weeks then spoke on the phone.
I just wanted to take it slowly and be friends - well that didn't last long!
First action in over 18 months! And I'm enjoying it!

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UnfortunatelyMe · 15/12/2008 23:47

Sounds fantastic, enjoy it..but keep your senses on alert IYKWIM.
I am sooo envious of the action

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BobDowne · 15/12/2008 23:50

Will do my best - trying hard not to let myself go completely gaga.
Have just read other thread here from CanThisWork, that's precisely the sort of thing i'm worried about.

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devoutsceptic · 15/12/2008 23:52

He's not a member of hte Paul O'Grady fan club, is he

UnfortunatelyMe · 15/12/2008 23:55

I read that too...didnt want to put a dampner on your new romance. 2 doggers on MN at the same time isnt possible

Bienchen · 16/12/2008 00:13

Don't rush it. He may just not want to be by himself at Christmas?

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BobDowne · 16/12/2008 08:26

I hope the dogging thing is quite rare, it's just that the last man I got keen on was into some odd things. But he did talk to me about it before anything happened which was nice of him!
Bienchen that had crossed my mind too - but I'll be spending Christmas with my boys, the exh and the exin-laws. Should be fun!

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NotDoingTheHousework · 16/12/2008 08:38

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Bienchen · 16/12/2008 08:44

Bob, good luck and have a great Christmas.

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BobDowne · 16/12/2008 09:11

Thanks guys. Lovely story NDTH, especially the slapper bit! Girl after my own heart! I've not had a lot of luck with men, ex was aggressive.
New man does seem really sweet and gentle, and honest. Not used to men like that!

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poops · 21/12/2008 12:11

well, if you are asking yourself is this too good to be true already? but relationships take time...... people can hide there true selves for a long time....

always trust your instincts and go with them.

but have fun

macdoodle · 21/12/2008 21:33

think I have found a good one too - have permanent grin stuck to my face
makes the way the exes behave even worse in retrosepct doesnt it!!!

Yurtgirl · 21/12/2008 21:37

4 dates in a little over a week - You not taking things slowly then. I would be concerned that I was rushing somewhat!

I hope it continues well - try not to get carried away though

aseriouslyblondemoment · 22/12/2008 15:15

You enjoy!!

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BobDowne · 23/12/2008 16:10

Hi all - time for an update. Things still going well, but i've managed to calm down and get my sensible head back on.
He's a lovely bloke but not particularly talkative so sometimes it's a bit hard-going!
Doesn't bode well really does it?

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Yurtgirl · 27/12/2008 21:19

So it didnt go to well then?
Do you think he is shy? Or is it that he hasnt got anything much to talk about?

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/12/2008 12:40

Why doesn't it bode well BobDowne?
Are you letting him get a word in edgeways lol?!
Maybe he is just taking it all in?
Are you his first gf in a while?

poops · 28/12/2008 13:50

Absolutely let him do the talking! and ask him questions....

Any red flags yet? what makes him so nice, not forgetting we are all on our best behaviour in the 6 months!!

Test him a bit and take him somehwere or do something he would never do... see how he reacts

aseriouslyblondemoment · 28/12/2008 15:04

Poops that could be a step too far for the average man lol!
We're all different and the fact that he's nothing like your ex would be a huge plus in my eyes.

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BobDowne · 01/01/2009 13:40

I'm back again!

Not been on the comp over Xmas mostly as I've spent a lot of time at the man's house!

Things looking good, I think he is quite shy, and gets quiet when he's tired. Let's face it i think i've been wearing him out!

It sounds like he hasn't been short of female attention in the last few years, so I do feel pretty insecure about how long this is likely to last.

I'm just enjoying things for now and will try not to look too far ahead.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 01/01/2009 16:55

Bobdowne that's good to hear
and I think you're going about things the right way thou I do so hope it all works out

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