My exh is an arsehole!

[greeneyedgirl]

I hate him so much I feel like murder would be a good option at the mo. I wanted to give my daughter a birthday party for her 4th, unfortunately her birthday is on New Year's day, so had planned to do it the weekend after so that more people would come.

Ex has now decided that because it is his access weekend, he won't allow her to have this party and will be keeping her with him. I am so angry, I told him months ago of this plan and he said it was fine.

His says he doesn't have enough access, but actually I am more than fair, he is a teacher and I am quite happy for him to have her weeks at a time in the summer and 3/4 days over half terms, however, he usually doesn't bother as he has "stuff planned". I suffer from bad anxiety, more than likely caused by the way he treated me when we were married and the battles I have with him now. I have had enough of his manipulation and selfishness, how do others cope?

Well, he actually left me and suggested a divorce, however, he didn't expect me to agree! He always finds ways to blame me for the split and every other problem in his life.

He says that some things were his fault (I know he doesn't believe it though), but, he has never forgiven me for refusing to try again. He doesn't get it because he thinks he's quite a catch, but actually he is emotionally stunted, manipulative and spiteful. If he were the only man in the world, I would take a vow of celbacy!

i wouldn't even bother to respond to any texts he sends that are not courteous or worthwhile. i wouldn't give him the time of day. just delete it or of course keep them in saved file should you need to prove he is emotionally abusive etc. by not responding you are showing him that you dont care what he thinks, aren't interested in him, and of course annoying him because he doesn't even know if he has or not hurt you as he doesn't get a reaction of any sort. also, you'd be amazed at how much better you feel being able to rise above him. no arguments because you didn't respond, no threats because he didn't like your response, no emotional upset or hurtful responses from him. i would say, regarding the birthday that he can't expect her BIRTHDAY to change because its his weekend. bloody hell. its her birthday. its the same date evry year! he is the one who should alter plans as should you. he is as much har parent as you and he should expect his daughter to have a birthday party. if its been arranged and agreed by him and your daughter knows about the party then there simply is no argument. the party goes ahead. if he can't make it thats his hard cheese. id think very carefully about what you really want to happen on birthdays, christmases special events etc and get them agreed in writing.