This is the first time I've posted on here, so I hope you don't mind me jumping in asking for advice like this!
Basically, I met my exH whilst working in Africa. We got married and I returned to UK pregnant and fought really hard for him to get his visa and join me here. We stayed together about a year after dd was born and for last year have been split up. He has seen dd sporadically, has gone missing for periods, but always paid his csa payments. DD has had a medical issue and I've been left to deal with all appts, surgery, therapy etc.
Anyway, the issue now is that the Home Office have told him to leave the country immediately as his spouse visa is not valid anymore. His options are to stay in UK and get a judicial review stating his human rights to see dd, but will take up to 12 months and no right to work/benefits. Or to return home and re-apply for child access visa there, probably take 3 months. He is choosing to go home. He says he needs a 'strong' statement from me, stating what a great father/influence he is on dd, that i want him in her life, that I will do anything possible to help him access dd.
That statement would obviously be very far from the truth. And I am still very bitter and hurt about the way I was abandoned to deal and cope with a baby who had health issues. But, if I refuse or write the truth and he is denied access to the UK am I just storing up a plethora of problems for the future eg. dd resenting me for keeping her father away from her?? Should I just do it for the sake of dd?
many thanks xx x
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Timbuktu · 14/12/2008 13:26
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