Going back to my maiden name??

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Just wondered if I wanted to go back to my maiden name, how do I do it? I am not divorced yet, will be, but not for ages.

Not sure how to do it legally or even if I want to, as I kindof want the same name as my children. But getting called Mrs is starting to grate a bit. As far as school and other stuff to do with the kids is concerned I don't mind being Mrs but I think I might like my banck account, mortgage and passport in my own name, but nor sure if it will be too much hassle.

I reverted to using my maiden name for everything other than bank/ legal stuff. Will change that when divorce comes through. I will change the formal stuff when divorce comes through.

So, I don't think my answer was very helpful but I am in the same boat.

I call myself a MS so people know I'm divorced but using my married name.

I tried going back to my maiden name for debt collector/creditor reasons. Didn't work.

And caused utmost confusion for the kids.

Get a MS or get your maiden name hyphenated with the kids names?

I couldn't actually afford to change my name back legally! And the DC's hated having mummy having a diff name.

So when schools call me MRS, I can still snarl at them! And I've been divorced for 8 years this month! The MS might sound better than you think

I've stuck with my married name, so I'm the same as dc. I do use Ms and I also get called Mrs. It does annoy me that my degree is in my married name.

I've gone for the Ms although I accept Mrs as life is too short.

All three of us (dts) are beginning to use my maiden name (which they have as a middle name anyway and I used as a middle name since marriage) and the married name. Simply because they are nearly 7. Had they been younger, before school, I would have changed everything back to my maiden name.

I want to keep the same name as the kids but am also going for Ms. I figure that if we have to be connected forever (by the kids) I can put up with his name!

Yeah, use Ms.

There have been long discussions about the use of Ms on mumsnet, and some people have some very weird reservations about it. Terrified somebody will think they're a lesbian or something?? I don't get it.

Ms is the ideal solution.

I never married my children's father, but with two children and in my late thirties, I would feel ludicrous using Miss.

Ms is right for me and I don't care if some people think Ms is weird.

I'm not sure why we have titles. Some people refuse to use them, eg. Quakers. I kept my married name to be the same as eldest DCs and also because I couldn't be bothered to do any more paperwork. Slightly regretted it some years later when I had DS2 who was known on hospital records as Baby Smith (my married name)! DP not impressed at all.

I still haven't got round to changing my name. Probably won't bother now as I will marry DP eventually and just take his name.

I think you can call yourself what you like on an informal basis.

I only use mine when filling in my visa details. Bank and so on demands that you tick one of options. I don't feel the need to be miss/ms/mrs though. so you are right zoggs. no real need. My name, that is enough of a title really.

i still use my married name, i like to be the same as dd. I look it at, hey i was Mrs, was proud and happy to be Mrs, and now that there is a new Mrs, i satisfy myself that i was the first Mrs!!!

It used to hurt a bit, writing it down on official things, but i don't have to do that often. I sometimes smarts a little if i have to leave my name as a contact, but I normally omit the Mrs, and just say my first name and second name.

I sorry just back, will read and digest .

I'm not divorced (yet) but I'm going to stick to Mrs M - that's who i've been for the majority of my adult life, and that's who everyone knows me as.........and besides as it'sa completely unprouncable name it's rather nice being one of the few people that gets called into the doctors etc by their first name as no-one is brave enough to try the surname

Ok I think I will continue to use my married name. I got MS put on one of my bank card I think i will make an effort to get it on all my official stuff. Don't know how easy that will be as BT still think I am MR, I know I have a deep voice but come on.

I thought about using both names but I think that will only confuse matters. One good thing is I always had to spell my maiden name, but married name is a bit more obvious.

So Ms it will be.