do you get asked if all your children are from the same father, and please give me some good replies?

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I have been asked several times recently if all my 4 children are from the same father.

now, in rural Bavaria where I am, this is a very loaded question, because if you divorce, and then remarry, and have another child with the 2nd husband, I have been reliably informed, you are 1 step from being a scarlet woman. So obviously if you have the children with different men, and not even the 2nd husband in sight, you would be prob. beyond the pale.

I find the question incredibly rude and personal even in england where I wouldnt expect to come acrose the same sort of prejudice, so please help me to think of a good answer, ideally a bit more sophisticated than F**k off, which is my instinctive reaction.

do people even ask this question in the uk? and for what possible reason apart from wanting to run you down?

I have been aked that once probably due to the fact that dd1 is all milky skin, pale blue eyes and poker straight blonde hair. DD2 otoh has a year round tan and dark curly hair. The proper answer would have been "as a matter of fact no they don't" my answer was "and you asking that why?....." "just that they look so different" "yes they do look different but what I meant is why is it any business of yours who the father or fathers of my children is?" The woman made her excuse and scarpered after that. I'm guessing she won't have asked one else that question.

My word,how rude! am loving the responses given though.

Or "they each have their own Dad, of course I have a spare around for weekends and one who works to pay for us all..."

I get asked this all the time. Im sure people just assume that because im 20 with 2 kids that I automaticly qualify as a slapper. Some one once said to me "do your kids both have the same dad?" and I just said "do yours?"

My kids do have the same dad and you only need to look at them to know.... they are like twins but why should it matter if they dont have the same dad? Should they be outcasts of the community for having a different dad..... the question makes my blood boil. My hv was taking some details down about my kids and she said she felt really uncomfortable asking people if their children all had the same father. She actually re-wrote her questionairre so it wasnt so offence..... sorry rant over.

really interesting thoughts here - thank you all.
I cant imagine asking this question of anyone I had just met, because it is just so irrelevant.

I think I will go for "why do you want to know?" or "yes they have all got the same father, how about your children, do they have the same father?"
or maybe "yes they have all got the same father, he'll be happy to make one for you too if you want"

Yes, that would be funny, a super-pilot "eh yes, my children have the same father..., do yours have a different father?"

Super polite I mean, not super pilot

I have 2 children to different fathers and i would also find it rude and no persons buisness they are brother and sister so if any one asked me i would tell them to fuck off my eldest understands this and finds no prob and wud not like someone putting ideas in his head as they will . But my daughter is with a man who war great until had baby and became violent i tried to make it work ar i felt shame until things went to far and i ended in hospital then realised sack the shame a low life like that shud nt be near my kids . People may look at me as a slapper but i dont care iv had serious relaonships . I recently went on a date and was asked were my kids father was i just mentioned my sons dad as dont think untik it became little more serius i would as why should i let someone judge me or my kids before they knew us