dreading being alone this christmas?

[hayley2u]

this will be the first christmas since me and ex p split up,thats not waht bothers ne it the fact that ill be alone this christmas. i usually have my mum and ad but they off on a cruise for the whole of the christmas period and new yr.. my two brothers are spending it with their partners families. which just leaves me and my ds 6 and dd 14 months. is anyone else in this situation. my ds will prob go off to see his father but my dd dad is away . can anyone give me advice how to still make it a happy christmas for us all

I have been in the past, I invited a friend & her dd over for christmas day (her dp was working) Is there anyone you can have over even for a drink if not a meal.

i am also alone this xmas, it will be the second for me (tho i kicked him out). dd will be at her dads, so am just treating it as a normal day for me.

however, if dd were with me, i would definitely space the presents out and try not to make it too much of an issue, i think sometimes that as lp's we sometimes think that certain situations will be harder than they actually are.

maybe on xmas eve, tho am not sure where your ds stands on this(!), you could ask him to tidy all his toys away otherwise the reindeer may slip on his toys?

fake snow with huge boot prints?
i saw on another thread about the xmas tree fairy ...

i am sure you will be fine ((((((((((()))))))))))

brightwell's idea is good!

our neighbours put a note through every year inviting people to pop in for a drink. She does vaguely know everyone though, don't know if you know your neighbours or get on with them, but might break the day up and you might get to know them a bit better.

I'm dreading it too

Just hate knowing I can't share it with someone.

DP (well, nearest I have got) is away in the blooming caribbean for 4 months so won't hear from him probably let alone see him, we don't see either of the boys' fathers anyway - might see my parents, but that's it.

Hayley - sorry you'll not have your mum and dad around.

Yes, good idea Brightwell.

I will be having 2 extra people this year - both single and without children

Yes, another dreading it here. Will be my first since the split too, I'll be on my own with the children.
I intend to (well try) to plan ahead and keep busy. Pop out to church in the morning etc
I doubt I will be seeing my family/parents also, but I sure there will be a telephone call.

From a purely materialistic view ( sorry) I do feel slightly sad that there will be no lavish presents from dh this year

well I will be with my dh and there will be NO presents from each other at all either!

If it were me I think I would try and invite friends round in the afternoon/evening? Or maybe do really fun things with the kids all day and then invite some single friends/couples round in the evening?

I am lucky I will be at my MIL, but decided to have the early morning with just my kids. I always did all the santa stuff myself anyway and exH stayed over last year and I hated it, I felt as usual I had done all the hard work and he got to sit there and appreciate it all.

No I will be enjoying the magical time with them myself for the first time. I try so enjoy all the little momments that I can, we make our own magic.

Whenthey are with exH after Christmas I will be relaxing in a 4* hotel thanks to clubcard vouchers, could face being home with out them surrounded by presents.

thanks everyone i will try see if anyone s free most of mine have blokes and families but ill try my best