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Selling exH's stuff.

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havingaclearout · 22/11/2008 00:49

Would I be wrobg to sell some of exH's stuff like videos etc that are cluttering up my loft?

When he left a YEAR ago he took a couple of holdalls and his passport. It was me that went round the house gathering all his stuff and bagged it up. He didn't take it until I piled it up at the fron door and demanded he took it. I would have chucked in the street but felt the kids didn't need to see that. He never even took photos or fathers day cards thay had made.

So... at the time I could face the loft, but now I can and I know there are stuff like videos, saddo ones that I can selll on ebay and sports equipment too. I think after a year and a seperation aggrement saying the house and contents is mine I am well within my rights. I have been good enough to save things like photos and certificates for him, but endless saddo videos???

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PhantomOfTheChocolateCakeAvena · 22/11/2008 00:50

Could you contact him and ask him if he wants them first? He sounds like a tosser but you can rise above this.

NCbirdy · 22/11/2008 00:52

If he has signed to say house and contents are yours then I would say legally it is ok. However, to avoid a row later, I would be tempted to say "last warning they go on ebay this sunday, get here or forget about them" - but I am confrontation phobic!

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havingaclearout · 22/11/2008 00:54

I asked him when he left a year ago when he was taking his stuff and was stupid enough to organise it then.

One I don't want him in my loft. Two I think he has more than enough time. I feel I am rising above this.

Plus all my ebay money is going on a fantastic day out after Christmas for the kids, he wants the kids to stay for 2 days but is working for most of one of those days so I offered to come to his work and pick up the kids then bring back when he is finished as I will be off work anyway. So want to spoil the kids and have a fab day out.

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havingaclearout · 22/11/2008 00:55

I sold a few of his playstation games last year as he left them all and I didn't want DS playing 18 rated crap games.

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PhantomOfTheChocolateCakeAvena · 22/11/2008 00:57

I'd sell it. 12 months is long enough.

Parsleypants · 22/11/2008 01:29

Flog it. Definitely. Enjoy your day out.

PurpleOne · 22/11/2008 04:17

Ask him one more time - then make yourself a tidy fortune on eBay

Your DC's are owed a fab day out. They don't need to know where the proceeds came from.
Just thing of the proceeds as unpaid maintenance or compensation

It's also very bad feng shui to hold onto exes stuff and things attached with bad memories from the past. You'll feel so much better when it is gone.

guyFAwkesreQuiem · 22/11/2008 05:30

I would ask him, actually no I'd tell him, one more time to come and pick it up otherwise you'll flog it.

I've still got the majority of exH's things in the attic, which I boxed up.........he was in the process of doing it before he moved out (we'd agreed it would stay in the attic until he found his own place - as he was going into houseshare) but then we had another row and I told him to leave - so he did just one week later - with no chance to box the rest of it up.

There were a few bits and pieces that I've sold, but they were stuff that he'd said he was going to get rid of before he moved out - and I told him I was selling it (and keeping any proceeds ) and he was fine with that.

He is moving into his own place soon (although it's a slightly tricky one now as last night when he picked the DS's up we discovered that the house he's renting is owned by a BNP activist - I had a nosey at the list the other day when it was available online, just to see if I had any local, spotted one on the street he was about to move to, and thought I'd "warn" him as he's been the victim of a racist attack in this town before, and ironically the BNP activist is his landlord ) so will be coming to get all the boxes out of the attic (well I'm not going up there - I got a (male) friend to put them up there for me so he can get them down.

So - basically - what I'm saying is, tell him that if he doesn't pick the stuff up by X day/time you'll be selling it.

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havingaclearout · 22/11/2008 22:30

He was asked and told last year and for months after that, he knew how pissed of I wwas about having to bag up his stuff, he knew there was still stuff in the loft.

He has had plenty chances, he had a place to move to and I didn't prevent him from coming into the house or anything.

Perhaps he should have another chance, but that to me is one chance to many. The kids will benefit from this so.. its going the road.

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AnnasBananas · 23/11/2008 09:26

Sell, sell, sell and treat yourselves! He's had more than enough time to come and sort out his shit. Probably couldn't even tell what has been left behind anyway.

glitterfairy · 23/11/2008 13:18

Sell it and have no qualms at all!

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