Rant needed

[tessofthedurbervilles]

Sorry but just need to let off steam....met ex on a dating site and am 12 weeks pregnant by him. We had split up beofre found out so can't expect him to want me just because etc...
Anyway had got an email from someone on same site so went on to pick it up (this guy only a friend nothing in it) and who should be on it but the ex who is 'sorry I haven't called or been in touch and soooo busy' he has been cruising the site looking for women...
I know I shouldn't get upset but I get so lonely and its hardly like I am going to meet someone for a long time....
rant over, sorry again xx

Dealing with being pregnant and a break up is about the worst combination. I know what your goin though.
There is no such thing as 'you shouldnt be upset' and dont let ANYONE tell you otherwise. Feel how you need to feel, yell, scream, laugh, cry, anything.
What has his reaction been to the pregnancy so far? does he seem like he will be helpful/supportive of the bubs?

Nope he doesn't want it at all and is pretending we don't exist. He has two kids already and he dotes on them which makes it all seem so unfair ....

Allot of things will seem unfair im afraid. That he gets to move on so easily, that he gets a lot more freedom in his social life, it can sometimes leave you feeling gutted.
I do suggest you arrange for CSA to collect money off him to help you out, specially if hes being unrealiable and pretending you dont exist. It is sometimes a long process dealing with them, but atleast having them collect money off him means that if he doesnt make payments he produces a debt. Though this is not something that you need to worry much about right now.
Reality is your bubs wont need him, will be fine with out him.
Do you have much support around you? Family, friends?

Arhhhh at what point do you just give up? Tried again to talk to him but he said 'look I don't know what you want from me, I'll do what I can to help but you are having this baby I wanted you to get rid of it'
The call was heated to say the least and I've heard nothing since.....

tess I think you should leave it for now and just accept that maybe you will be doing this on your own without any input from him whatsover, maybe contact him again when the baby is born and give him another chance to be a proper dad, he might change his mind and want to be a part of the baby's life when the baby is actually born, I know its hard but you don't need the stress in your pregnancy.

Thanks guys, if you see him dressed as batman and chained to a fence chanting about his rights in years to come will someone please restrain me?! xx