Going shopping with xp

[IllegallyBrunette]

He has just rung to say he has got to go to a particular shopping centre today to collect something and did I want to go to get some xmas bits and bobs.

I have said no but I do really really want to go. I haven't been there for ages, I do need to do some xmas shopping, and it would be lovely to go shopping and not have to struggle carrying stuff and hopping on and off buses.

Thing is, if I go xp will probably read lots of stuff into it that isn't there, which I suppose is his problem really, not mine.

What shall I do ??

I would leave it and make other arrangements to go. I dont know your background on this its just easier to avoid any complications.

Don't go - he is lonely(for now) and wants to have someone to feel dependent on him.

I won't be able to go with anyone else, not there anyway it is too far.

I just thought it would be good to get the majority of my shopping done and dusted especially with me starting my job in the next week or so.

i would go...if he has issues let him have issues. a grown man shpuld be able to differentiate. plus it means that you can get wrapping and not have to suffer going shopping alone.

Go if you want too IB, but make a joke of it that you hope he don't get any funny ideas, i'm sure he is grown up enough to go shopping with you and not expect anything to come of it, no reason why you cnat sit and have a coffee and a catch up.

I think some are giving him rather more credit than his past behaviour warrants. Please don't let him use it to undermine your confidence, independence or commitment to the job.

I don't think I understand your last sentence LIZ. My job has nothing to do with xp.

I did go in the end because one of the shops I needed to go in had offers on stuff I needed to buy so I wasn't going to cut my nose of to spite my face.

It was fine, I was very business like about the whole thing and i'm glad I went because I ended up helping him pick out something for dd2 which she will absolutly love.

It is something I will be doing again as hopefully next year I will be able to drive myself.

Glad it went well, sounds very civilised. I just didn't want him to use the opportunity to sow any seeds of doubt about your working since he has previously disapproved. How is the drivign goign btw ?

Oh the driving is going great, I love it

I have hitched a lift of ex H when he has gone to our nearby shopping centre. I see it as just a lift, nothing more, as I don't drive.

Didn't shop with him though, just literally got a lift there & back.