Should have known better - Advice needed please be gentle

[verysillywoman]

Have namechanged as a regular. Didnt really know where to put this but I am a single mum to 2DS. Yesterday went for a scan as suffer from cycsts and endometriosis of which I take my pill for 3 months and then have a period but to my horror discovered that I am 6 weeks pregnant to my xdp whom I split with 9 months ago, but we had a one night stand

Been awake all night in shock and thinking what to do,xdp isnt my 2DS father. God really dont know what to do, advice would be most welcome as do I tell xdp or just make a choice with out him.

Blimey, congratulations first and foremost!

I guess the question is what do you want to do keep it or not? What do you think xdp would say and isnt it right to involve him? Do you think he would want to be a dad, is he ready etc etc?

You need a bit of time to think about things I guess first and get things a little straighter in your head.

I am in two minds part of me wants to keep it then the practical side has been kicking in with regards to money,child care, size of house as 2DS have their own room, what would people think as I work for an old fashioned company and can just hear my boss tutting and looking down. And then silly things like My age and just getting life back as boys are older.

I dont know what he would say,he has already got 3 DC havent spoken to him since that night. And the problem is I still love him and have just been trying to get over him when this happens.

Congratulations. I would say forget what other people might think. I know thats hard particularly if your firm are the traditional type. Only you can really decide whats best in this situation but I hope you have some support whatever you decide to do. We all do things at times which can be viewed as unwise but we learn from them usually and so thats half the battle. You sound like a good Mum. You are thinking things through logically and it is hard to forget your feelings for someone when you are vulnerable and you care deply for them. Good luck anyway

DEEPLY !! SORRY TYPE TOO FAST.:-)

thanks RED that has made me feel better. I woke up during the night and thought I am going to keep this baby. I am nervous now but I feel its the right thing to do. As for telling ex I dont know but I feel he should know and then it is up to him.

i found that i was preg wih Ds after sleeping with XP once, he was overjoyed...i was devistated, it seemed that we switched roles during my pregnancy. i did get a good few comments from people and then when he disappeared when i was 5 and a bit months preg a lot of i told you so, but now no-one cares. you know what you wnt and it is you that has to live with the concequeces. even if you were in a relationship there is no guarentee that the bloke would even last out the pregnancy.
so think of itb as a possitive...its your deision and everyone else will just have to accept that.
take care and congrats!
xxx