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Ex didn't turn up to see DD today ......

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noche · 09/11/2008 18:17

Had a call Fri night ex in mock tears-his father ill (AGAIN)so he wanted to swop contact from Sat to Sun. I agreed. And guess what? He didn't turn up-no phone call no message.
Before you all think I am a callous B**ch cos something has probably happened to his dad which made him unable to come/contact us can I just add that in the last 9 months his mum has fallen off the stair lift and been ambulanced to hospital (didn't happen), sister has had a fit due to drugs (don't know about that one...) dad also collapsed and was taken to hospital(didn't happen)all requiring him to rush off to see them and not see DD. May I just also add that this is the man who left our family holiday in Spain cos dad had had a stroke-again untrue!
I knew when he rang Fri that this would happen and just wanted to say "OK so in other words you have had a better offer and will not be seeing Dd this weekend) but didn't. He even had the nerve to say i didn't sound like I cared! I don't. We have been divorced for 3 years, separated for 2 before that and his parents have never contacted me once ever so why should I?
Would you say anything? Would so like to let him know I know it is a pile of crap but don't know if it is worth it?

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mankymummy · 09/11/2008 18:31

Poor DD... how old is she?

I think you need to sit down and tell him that you know he has lied about stuff in the past and if this happens again, you need PROOF that it really is an emergency.

ilovemydogandPresidentObama · 09/11/2008 18:34

Is it supervised or unsupervised access?

CarGirl · 09/11/2008 18:35

How often is contact at the moment? If it's weekly perhaps ask him if he'd prefer fortnightly, that way he may actually stick to it.

Really does suck for our dd though.

MeMySonAndI · 09/11/2008 18:36

The only thing I can suggest is not tell DD when her dad is coming, that way if he doesn't show up at least she was saved the upset.

noche · 09/11/2008 18:42

She is 7. Strangely though she didn't seem a bit surprised or upset! he sees her weekly and its unsupervised. I think she is used to his behaviour. She asked me once if he was a liar!
What makes me mad is the fact that he can't just be honest and say he can't come. I of all people am very likely to know it is a pack of lies!

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mankymummy · 09/11/2008 18:51

poor love, but i guess at least she'll grow up with a realistic expectation of him.

IMHE... some men lie and will never stop.

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