A bit of a revelation came from ExH last night when he brought the DC home!
He and his new wife have just had a PFB, 2 weeks ago.
Bit of background - after 9 years of marriage I found out he was having an affair (now his new wife) when I was 8 weeks pregnant with DC2.
After much to-ing and fro-ing he decided to leave us permantly when DD was 2 months old but to be honest he hadnt "been with us" since I found out about the affair.
So last night he looked absolutley knackered, the kids came in and he said
" erm I want to tell you something and I dont want you to say anything just listen"
"I really appreciate what you did with DS & DD when she was born on your own and the circumstances that you were in, you have done a good job"
"I couldnt sleep last night I'm feeling really guilty about it" and then he said
" You know its really hard with a baby and there are two of us! and you were on your own, because I know I didnt help you" (He slept in the spare room with ear plugs in for the last few weeks he lived here)
I nearly fell over in disbelief in what I was hearing!!
Its taken nearly 5 years to hear that, Im not sure he will ever fully understand how awful it was or even how difficult it can be now sometimes (still loneparent)
but it was quite satisfying to hear that for some reason