Anyone with experience of NOT following access set by court?

[MeAndMyGirl]

Hi. My horrible expartner has taken me to court regarding access to DD. It is bullying tactic as he has been violent and manipulative throughout our relationship - he is putting pressure on me via our DD so I will agree to his unreasonable financial requests.

The child welfare report has recommended that he has supervised access to both monitor him and his attendance as he is so so unreliable. The judge will make final decision on Thursday but think it will go in his favour.

Basically I will be disregarding what the court will probably set about access and not put my DD through this - as I know he will let her down and I don't want her to feel that pain.

Has anyone else disregarded court ruling and what happened????

Any experiences would really help (sad)

Hi, you sound like your in a similiar situation to me! I've just started a thread about access through court as well!!!

You sound like your further in front of me so I'm afaid I can't give you y constructive advise. However what I do know from my own experiances are that once the court are involved access is no longer is your hands It is down to the courts...Iwould strongly advise you to speak to your solcitor about your feelings and dont make any decisions on your own as it may back fire.... Good luck tho I really hope it works out for you xxx

Also - Won't the courts be monitering him? So if he does mess up with contact it will look bad on him .... men like that can't keep the pretence up for long!

I dont think the courts should be disregarded unless a child is at a physical risk of abuse. What is so unreasonable about what you think they will set?

The courts look very dimly on contempt of court. Worst case scenario is a penal notice being attached to a court order meaning you will go to prison if you disregard it.

I know someone whose ex was told she would spend the night in a cell if she broke a court order one more time.

For your daughter's sake - don't do it.

They can also change the residence order and make it in your partners favour if you do not go along with a court order and think how much worse that would be.

There really needs to be a fantastically good reason and just because you dont like it or think that it protects your daughter from being let down is not good enough.

lostdad has given an extremem case, but I am constantly reading on the net step parents complaining that their partners ex have denied them contact even though a court order is in place and nothing has been done about it, I don't think everything is cast in stone and it may vary from one judge to another, I think you should just wiat and see what happens on thursday, try not to think about it too much, it might even swing in your favour, good luck.