Feeling a bit rubbish tonight & I am not sure why!

[Pinkchampagne]

Do you think it's the dark evenings?
It isn't like me to feel rubbish & low for no reason, but I feel lonely & yuk this evening, like I want to cry, but not sure why! It will pass in a bit won't it?

Yes PC I am sure it will. I posted a thread on relationships the other week - I had a day where I couldn't stop crying.

It did pass and I'm feeling better now although I really hate the dark nights and dull days too!

It will pass.

Thanks, HCL. I am sure I will feel a bit better later, once the childrens TV has gone off & I have found some trash to watch!
I just don't feel myself tonight, but sure the dark dull evenings have something to do with it.

When are you seeing your nice man again?

Not saying that one needs a man to be happy etc.

I think being a single parent is a very hard grind (for me the reality of it is setting in - after two years LOL) and the weekends are sometimes harder in a way.

Also although I was relieved in some ways it was half term - there was alot of to-ing and fro-ing and I ended up with one unexpected night alone and as nothing much has been planned felt a bit lost without DCs. I also ended up spending money I didn't want to spend in order to transport the boys around and to my parents.

Hope you are feeling better soon

Thank you, HCL.

I saw my man for a few hours today actually - we took the boys out. I will next see him for a few hours on Wednesday, so maybe it is because I have been around him & then suddenly back here on my own with the boys. It can sometimes hit you more when you have had lots of adult company then it's back to reality with a bump, can it not?

I feel awful moaning like this, when I do have a lovely partner, and I am normally fine with my own company too. I guess feeling so low has kind of taken me by surprise a bit.

it will pass yep - i'm also feeling a bit down today, but also as well, I think it is the dark nights - esp as all you want to do it snuggle up on the sofa together with a coco.

Hi PC

Sorry you are feeling so down! It could be the dark evenings, but also it could be back to work tomorrow realisation!

I am dreading it, and I have to be there an hr earlier for the next 6 days!

Is there anything I can do?

sorry to hear you are feeling low, i think the weather makes thinks feel so much worse. that and what i call "responsibility fatigue"
i have been a bit tearful too today i am sure when the kids go back to school tomorrow and i get some time to myself for the first time in 2 weeks i will feel better.
wine & chocolate may help.

DS1 is complaining his tummy hurts now. I really hope he isn't coming down with a bug. I dread the children getting tummy bugs!

PC, he may be just picking up on your mood! Try not to worry (rich coming from me!)

Hope DS1 gets to sleep soon.

He has been complaining of a pain in his stomach since getting out of DP's car & doesn't seem right. I have given him calpol & put a towel on his pillow just incase. My stomach doesn't feel 100% either. Hope we aren't all going to be ill at the same time! Just what I don't need!

OH dear! fingers crossed its something and nothing - is he asleep yet?

Did he eat any dinner?

No he isn't asleep. He ate some pasta for dinner, despite complaining of tummy pain. He doesn't seem right at all though. I just asked if he felt sick & he said "a little bit." Oh no!

Could he be worried about school tomorrow? (heres PB hanging on to little threads that he could be ok, just a little bit about sch tommrrow!}

oh your poor ds.

i feel exactly the same, feeling low the last few days, ws even vaguely thinking of ads a min ago despite being off them for two years.

two years!!!!!!! how did that happen?

i think it is the dark nights, the cold, credit crunch hysteria all around...

Hello PC how are you feeling today? Hope you little one is ok.

I have been to work & feel much better today thanks. DS1 had an undisturbed night in the end, and although he was still complaining of tummy pain first thing, he soon perked up & seems fine now. Not sure what that was, but he didn't seem right at all last night.

Don't know what my sudden low was all about last night, but I guess we all get them from time to time! Thank you all for talking to me.

glad you feel better .

Hello PC sudden lows are pretty normal I think when coping with kids on your own and you are right the dark nights dont help at all.

I actually find it better with no boyfriend because there are no ups and downs and no one to miss so I just get on with things. I know when I have had a man around and then he goes I get a little low for a few hours or overnight.

Glad things are going so well for you these days overall though it is really good.

Hi all.......I agree, I have sudden highs and lows since becomming a lone parent and its been about 10 months.
Partly because I'm not exactly where I want to be in life and I know it takes time. I have 2 ds's 8 and 4 and not living where I want to live and haven't fully got the career I want and think I'm in love with a man I can't have. Sometimes it can get to you.
But I know to sort myself out takes time, money and a great deal of nose to the grind stone. I know I'll get there in the end, but today is a good day....yesterday was a low day but I know it won't be like this forever and its the same with all us lone parents who have these really horrible low days.

I'm going to give us all a pat on the back no one else will so "Pat on the back girls" (and any guys out there)!!

Thanks for the pat Moosh, have one yourself!

Yes thanks for the pat Moosh I have been feeling like that a bit