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URGENT advice needed regarding access

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namechangernumber874 · 31/10/2008 17:32

the crux of the matter is that xh was having unsupervised all day access to dd (20 months old). we have been split up for 6 months, but he has only been doing this unsupervised for the past 8 weeks.
xh's behaviour became very erratic 2 weeks ago- aggressive towards me, then nice, then aggressive. He didnt turn up to see dd, so there wasnt a question about the access then.
But last week he was taken in by the police under the mental health act. He was being a danger to himself. He has been released, and is under the care of the local community mental health team.
So what do I do regarding access to dd? He was a danger to himself, not to others, but it doesnt quite sit right that he should go straight back into unsupervised all day access.

Please advise me!

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namechangernumber874 · 31/10/2008 17:36

please anyone?

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brightwell · 31/10/2008 18:22

My gut reaction would be to deny him unsupervised access, in light of recent stories in the media.

brightwell · 31/10/2008 18:23

Sorry not stories...events.

justabouthowlsatthemoon · 31/10/2008 18:25

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Tinkerbel6 · 01/11/2008 11:40

Don't let him have unsupervised access until you have some kind of supervised access in place, speak to the CAB or contact a solicitor or social services

namechangernumber874 · 03/11/2008 12:14

ok, I did supervised access myself this weekend, as I had no other choice. I am not doing that again as he plays mind games with me.
How do I go about getting supervised access? And how long will it carry on for? I am concerned about him doing something stupid with dd (like those awful stories on the news). I dont know how likely it is, but its not a chance I can take.
Do I need to inform anyone else? social services etc? I really dont want to go down that route, but if it is necessary then I will.

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glitterfairy · 03/11/2008 12:38

Think you need the help of a solicitor here namechanger. Even if just for advice and I agree about social services as well. I doubt his team who are looking after him in the community will be helpful because of issues around his confidentiality but if it is a child protection issue they might help.

Rosasmum · 03/11/2008 12:39

Have a look here www.naccc.org.uk/cms/index.php?option=com_simplefaq&Itemid=138

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