Right, a little bit of background. DB met his ex wife late 99 to early 2000 i think. She is a sikh we aren't. Ex wasn't happy at home as her father was violent and they decided to take the next step and move in together. They ran away and posted a note to her parents explaining. Her family disowned her and we welcomed her into our family with open arms, my mum used to comfort her when she was upset.
2001 she fell pregnant, they got married jan 2002 and she gave birth to dn in march. Her family accepted her back into the family and they brought their first house together.
Being a large and very close family exs sisters/brothers/parents etc were ALWAYS at their house.
Cue to march 2007, db is not happy at home for reasons i shall explain and leaves the family home, he turns up at my mums house in floods of tears after having to tell his son he has to go. He stuck it out for a long time but couldnt handle it anymore.
He met someone and they moved in together, they had a little boy together in june, that gorgeous little boy died the 3rd of this month at 15 weeks.
I am now going to give a list of everything ex has done/said over the last 5 or so years.
When DN2 was in hospital, right before they removed his tubes, he phoned ex and asked to speak to his ds which is understandable, he explained the situation to her and she said "what goes around comes around" she then later went to dns school and said the same thing to dns teacher but added "he deserved it"
She told me everytime i saw her she wished she would have married mr singh and been rich as DB was useless/lazy/no good etc although he worked 6 days a week and paid her a 'clothes and hair allowence' each week.
She slapped dn around his face when he was squirming during a nappy change, he was about 14 months old. I witnessed this but she doesnt know i did.
She told dn to call my mum 'white nanny' and 'white nanny doesnt love you as much as indian nanny does' which hurt my mum no end.
She told me my brother forced her into an abortion but after speaking to my brother found out it was a joint decision as they felt they wouldnt be able to afford/cope with another one.
She told my nephew to call dbs dp 'banana women' (she is jamacian)
She used to tell me that she could never get db to argue with her (he is that laid back he is almost horizontal) and sometimes hit him with rage to provoke him but never succeded, then filed in the divorce he was violent.
I have to stop now as i am getting worked up but the list goes on and on and on.
She is not fit to have a child, she does not deserve him. DB has not seen his son since his little boy died and wont for a further 3 weeks cause of some bullshit excuse. All he wants is to give his boy a cuddle. DN said that if he saw db driving past he would open the car door and get in and never go back hes only 6
I probably shouldnt be giving out my brothers life over the internet but im desperate to help him and any advice would be gratefully recieved. We aren't that close but I have broken my heart for him over the past 4 weeks and would do anything to make him happy.
Sorry it was long and thankyou if you have got this far