Ok Dating Experts! What does it mean in someone's profile if they want 'someone who likes to play'?

[BobDowne]

Help me here guys. I have my suspicions, but would like more opinions!

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I think your suspicions are very likely to be correct and I'm no expert on dating sites.

That they want a fling, and most definately NOT commitment.

Tell me! Tell me! I need to know if i'm on the right track here!

Really Shiny? That's not what i was thinking. What do you think soultaken?

Er, they want casual sex and are possibly into some weird stuff.

I do know the man in question here and know it's not casual sex he's into...

He'll provide the handcuffs, you the nipple-clamps & wet lettuce.

It means they are a slapper, looking for likewise ... sorry, was that too harsh???? (blame blunt northern background)

they want to meet for a date and shag.
if tyour any good they may invite you back in a few weeks for another shag.

in between if they are bored youmay get an invite to "play" on cam.

he wuill get bored after 3/4 shags and will find another play mate.

it will be nothing more than fuck buddies at best.

It may well mean 'likes BDSM' if the dating site is a wussy one that won't allow explicit sexual references: otherwise it's likely to mean 'casual sex'. I think the message it's trying to get across is 'I am not desperate for a long term committed exclusive relationship. Please don't expect one from me and if you are desperate, please go elsewhere'.

Ok solidgold, that's about what i was thinking. What does BDSM stand for exactly? Naive me.

Variously (depending on who you ask) Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sado-Masochism.

Is he cute, BTW?

That sounds about right. Explains a lot!

I think he's cute, if quite overweight. He's a charmer. Are you into that too?

We did date for a while but are now 'just friends' although he does like to have a good grope now and then. I wish he'd been more open with me about it!

Trust your instincts, sounds like he wants a bit of fun when it suits him, I'm sure that you think more of yourself than to let him use you in that ways, sound like he don't think much of himself either.

Trouble is tinkerbel i don't think that much of myself and he gives good hugs, which i don't get anywhere else.
I've been trying to convince myself i could use him, but it's not doing me any good!

BD, what is it you want from him? If you are 'just friends' then he is entitled to advertise for sexual partners on a dating site if he wants to: he's not agreed to any kind of exclusive romantic relationship with you.
If you want a serious, monogamous relationship then he is probably not the right guy for you to have one with, and it doesn't sound like he is offering you one anyway - it sounds like he is fairly upfront about what he wants - but that doesn't mean he can't be a good friend.

I know he's not done anything wrong and has been honest with me. I'm not wanting a serious relationship with him. I know he's not right for me and all that but i feel i've grown close to him and know i'll be upset if and when he does meet someone else.
I'm not expecting anything from him, the problem is with me being too bloody attached to him.

Oh dear, poor you. It is miserable to want someone more than they want you but it does ease up in time and sometimes (quite often) the person can become a good friend.