You remember a few weeks ago my exH crashed his car, and I ended up taking the DS's over on the bus to him..........

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and lots of you said "well why won't he get the bus". Well I'll tell you why - because he's bloody USELESS.

He ended up getting the bus back today (getting a new car next week) with them.

He had

1 pushchair (DS3 sat in it on the bus so didn't have to fold it down)
2 walking DS's (one holding a small plastic bag)
1 sports bag - which contained all the DS's overnight stuff, including DS3's grobag (and he ^really doesn't sleep well without it), the baby monitor (I can't hear properly in the evening withtout it - thick walls, big house, DS1's little cuddly dog who has become a MUST HAVE for bedtimes, 3 of DS3's bottles, their toothbrushes etc etc - oh and my last pack of wipes it was only just opened and I knew it would last me a few more days yet)

He left the travel cot and carseats at his and will bring them tomorrow when he gets the car.

Well I had delivered to me:

3 DS's, 1 pushchair, 1 small plastic bag (carried by DS1)

NO overnight bag - he "left it on the bus" ONE bloody bag he had to remember to pick up as he got off.

And you know what the laughable thing is - he expected me to ring up about it (told him no way).

So now I'm faced with a bloody awful night, DS3 will take ages to settle, DS1 will be upset when he realises "Spotty" has gone AWOL and no doubt DS2 will play up just for the fun of it as his brothers will be.

I'm so (and kind of wishing I'd gone on picked them up on the bus myself - at least I would have got everything back......)

oh and now he has the gaul to text me to say the bus driver (on his way back) said "not to worry" we'd be able to get it tomorrow......

fine - I bet he's lovely and relaxed - shame I'm not feeling the same way - I wasn't "worried" about the bag being lost, I was worried (and still am) about how it's going to affect the DS's.

Thankfully DS1 has dealt with it quite well the realisation that Spotty has "gone on holiday overnight" - but DS3 without his grobag is going to be awful - he's going to think it's a daytime nap and keep waking up - I know it - and with no monitor I won't be able to hear him so will have to keep running up and down the stairs

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH

Why don't you make him get a second set of everything at his place, so you don't have to do this?

(sympathies, by the way!)

a) because he's a twanker and I'm going slowly on the list of things he has to do (turning up on time to pick them up has only just been achieved)

b) he doesn't really have anywhere to keep them - he's in a shared house, and the "spare room" is used by one of his housemates DC when they go and stay.

c) because I would end up having to fork out for it all, and he'd take months to pay him back

God is really that hard to remember to pick up one bag as you get off a bus????

pay me back that should be

pay me back that should be

What a nightmare. Well done DS1 for being mature about Spotty. We have a dolly which NEVER leaves dd's bedroom because I'm so paranoid about losing it. When we go away for the night, it travels in my handbag.

Anyone you know who could lend you a grobag?

I did try and encourage to leave Spotty at home when he goes to stay with exH - but as exH bought it for him (well actually I think it was won at the fair ) he's adamant it goes.

I do have a "spare" grobag which was given to me on a previous occasion when he forgot to bring the grobag back - but it's a small one and DS3 has now outgrown it.

Will have to just hope for the best.

I completely understand how you feel i'm sure they do these kind of things to annoy us.

oh yea of course you shouldn't worry you are just going to have a really difficult night because he is stupid...

Reminds me of the time (pre-dd) dh left my bag hanging off the back of a trolley at Heathrow. We only realised when I looked for it to pay the taxi when we got home (after a 45 min journey).

So that was my purse, mobile, ipod, brand new sunglasses, passport, make-up etc etc etc

Of course it was my fault, according to dh