Ok, after my LONG post yesterday, have finally heard back from my solicitor and my ex-h is going to see our children on Wednesday for 3 hours (first time in 16 weeks - his choice - they are 3 and 2). I also have 2 more dates set up.
Apparently he was given a 'good talking to' by his own solicitor, over his unreasonable expectations (he hasn't seen them for over 3 months, and said he would only see them if his girlfriend was present) In a not very funny situation, that made me smile.
I just wondered if anyone had any advice on dealing with them being away. I know it sounds mad because it's only for 3 hours, but they're only 3 and 2, and for the past 16 weeks it has just been me and them, and the thought of them not being here upsets me.
Also how do I best prepare them for it? And how do I act when they come home? Do I talk about their dad? Ask about what they did? Or just let them tell me if they want to? More then anything I want them to come out of this whole mess as unscathed as poss, but they're so little and this is so new to me, I don't know what to do!
And finally - in my proposals for his contact with the, I said I wanted him to commit to seeing them regularly on his own for 2 months before he introduced his girlfriend to them (given his lack of commitment for the past 16 weeks, and the fact that as they are so young, he needs to re-establish his relationship with him). He is already pushing to reduce that (to 2 weeks!!) Do you think 2 months is a fair amount of time? Or am I being unreasonable?
Sorry for so many questions. I am so new to this, and you all have so much wisdom! Thanks!