Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Lone parents

Use our Single Parent forum to speak to other parents raising a child alone.

Original poster

I just ran into a bloke I snogged in the sixth form! He is a single Dad...: )

51 replies

FlightAttendent · 20/09/2008 17:37

Ooh!

The trouble is, nobody took anybody's number.

He is lovely and laid back and very attractive. We only went out for about a week and it was all quite amicable...now he has a two year old and he lives in Brighton half the time and here half the time, when he looks after his daughter.

We didn't chat much but it was nice and golly I so would...

What do I do now?
I doubt we'll ever meet again!

OP posts:
wardrobemistress · 21/09/2008 19:02

Just off to chase my youngest two into the shower-will check inbox later.

Pushpinia · 21/09/2008 19:04

Ok hope it reached you! Thanks again xx

wardrobemistress · 21/09/2008 20:47

ok,added you (at least,I hope it's you!)

Pushpinia · 22/09/2008 06:08

Thankyou! I am overwhelmed at how busy your page is! you actually have a life!!!!

Pushpinia · 22/09/2008 06:23

Btw, can you re-date someone?

I mean, once you have been out with them for say two weeks without really talking much or doing anything much, when you were but a slip of a girl - can it actually work out?

I've spent all night remembering the stuff we did. The first night we were all out with a group of 'friends' (well I was tagging along as I had none, lol) and we ended up splitting into groups and I was with him and another boy, and they had been smoking hashish and decided to climb onto the roof of M&S and chuck stones down at people on the ground. This is a something like five storey building with a big parapet and we were standing behind that leaningover. Some off duty policeman saw us and called the cops and we had to leg it down, only to be met and cautioned by them at the bottom of the fire escape

I was really upset with myself (even though I wasn't chucking anything!)

Anyway he put his arm round me and I statyed at his house but we weren't any use at sex and didn't get that far

I think I was 17 and he was 15, bless.
I thought that meant we were boyfriend and girlfriend but he didn;t ring me and i ended up going round and asking him if we had split up. I think he said 'Ok' - he was quite laid back even then! And I didn;t know what was going on!

this might not be an excellent sign I suppose depending on how much he has changed...

wooga · 22/09/2008 07:57

I wouldn't go by what he was like at 15-most of the stuff I did then makes me and embarrassed now!!

WingsofaAngel · 22/09/2008 08:07

Watching this with interest. I hope you have a good time when you meet up.
If you join the MN group on facebook feel free to add me too.

Pushpinia · 22/09/2008 10:14

Ok will do Wings!!

hopefully he can't remember how insecure I was at 17 either...

I went on to live with his friend for 2 years so I have no idea what was said about me between them!

undercovercat · 22/09/2008 11:24

Ohhh how exciting

Tinkerbel6 · 22/09/2008 14:32

I would date him as he is now not what he was like at 15, I doubt anyone is the same now as they were back then

Pushpinia · 26/09/2008 13:50

I just got an email...he wants to meet over the weekend, OMG what am I going to do, I am really nervous!

I was yabbering on the other day about some old colouring books and thought he thought i was a loon but he has replied.

wooga · 26/09/2008 21:04

This is a much nicer thread than some others tonight so I'll give it a boost!

Relax and enjoy yourself Pushpinia,am very !

He must be keen to want to see you so soon!

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 05:58

Thanks Wooga...yes glad that one got pulled finally

Well we're meeting this morning...at swings...this is why I am awake at 5 whatever.

I have to take a cupboard to bits and then a sofa is arriving so this will help to keep me from flipping out!

foofi · 27/09/2008 07:09

Good luck FA - am v excited for you! Have you decided what to wear?

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 07:35

No!

No idea. Skinny black jeans, long sleeve t shirts and a long cardi and hair up at the back I think...and big winter boots (not heels! I never wear heels or I fall over lol)

Actually my uggs might frighten the poor guy.

Ideas welcome...

allgonebellyup · 27/09/2008 07:50

ooh i am so jealous!!

why cant anything like this happen to me?!!

Have loooooooooads of fun!!

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 07:55

Thanks!

I had almost given up...it's only a first date anyway. Might go incredibly badly - I don't really know him yet! His daughter is beautiful and he's lovely looking though.

Am planning to take everything extremely slowly. just going to be friends first. I'm not sure if I even want a boyfriend.

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 07:56

Foofi I like your name

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 13:48

Whoopee!!!

It went very well

we got on really really well, we sort of said we weren't looking for relationships - he only split from her a few months ago, and I'm too busy - and he might be moving away very soon.

But he kissed me on the cheek, twice, and he is very easy to talk to and I just am so pleased to have him as a friend. It was really sort of easy iykwim?

We're meeting again soon, I emailed him to say I think he is lovely and that I didn't mean anything by that!

Might be going to a concert he's in tonight. If I can drag the children there. He's a music teacher.

allgonebellyup · 27/09/2008 17:28

ooooooooooh i was thinking about you (yes i am that sad), glad it was good?

Are you sure you dont want more to happen with him?

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 18:01

Aw Agbu! I think of you too, actually...

Well, it would depend...yes, I'd love something to develop as it was so comfortable being around him, but that is up to him really if he is up for it.

I'm going to get to know him first before we make any moves. I've never done that before, just been friends and then started the other stuff. Then it's been really difficult to back out when I realised I wasn't sure after all. The only way to do it is slow for a boring old saddo like me I take ages to trust someone especially with my kids!

He's got a job with the company he used to work for and that might take him to the next county so I am not holding out much hope at the mo, but he did seem to want to go to another place together - there's a wildlife place I've got membership to. We might do that.

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 18:03

But saying that I do completely trust him already, especially with the children. He is a much nicer dad than I am a mum...he might be shocked at my shouty moments

When I see him with his daughter, he is the gentlest person imaginable.

allgonebellyup · 27/09/2008 18:29

awwwwww, i want one, I WANT ONE!!

Pushpinia · 27/09/2008 18:54

Will pop one in the post Agbu

allgonebellyup · 27/09/2008 18:58

Forgot you were Flightattendant! i was wondering who Pushpinia is!

(you have been really understanding of my situation before, about ex moving on when he was miserable, to having a baby so quickly, everyone else thought he was a twat but i remember you describing exactly how it is..)