Does anyone else speak to their ex politely and do them favours but really on the inside hates their guts and would like nothing better than to beat the shit out of them with a baseball bat???

[charlotte121]

Because I do.... he totally screwed me over. He is the biggest piece of work ever. There are so many things I hate about him... the way we split up and 2 seconds later he's living with a new woman the way he thinks he is the best father in the world, but infact doesnt provide for my kids and has other children out there that he doesnt even see... the way he is a smarmy git that is nice as pie to people and tries to "buddy" himself up with my friends so that they think all the shit that I described in our relationship is lies.... but for some reason when he comes over to see ds and not dd and doesnt give me any money, Im nice to him.... Im accomodating and polite even when he is rude.... I do him favours for christs sake.... and I dont know why coz i hate the cock faced lier....

anyone else do this??? Deep down I think it is because I want things to be civil between us for the kids sake, but if I had my way i think i would be in jail by now!!! Im not insane I promise.... I just really really hate this guy!

FioFio, I went for a man like this, who told me a load of bull about the kids' mum making malicious accusations about him to police so she could shut him out of their kids' lives, which I being young and naive believed and felt sorry for him. Then he started with the sly manipulation and eventually jealous control, gradually so I hardly noticed the changes, 'til I was in a living hell, held captive, isolated in our home by him and abused daily. It's been over 2 years since I left, but I'm still too scared that he'll 'know' that I want to hurt him, so I sometimes just stay awake at night and wish for him to have a really bad accident at somebody else's hands, but then when I dream, he still finds out that it was me that made it happen by wanting it. I want to stop feeling like this towards him for dd as she doesn't know what went before and currently has a positive relationship with him, but don't know how.

I don't speak to ex p much, I doon't think you should do him favors tho especially as he does not support you lo's andonly comes to see ds and not dd...