Father refuses to register his name on our babys birth

[choccypuddin]

on top of the heartache my ex as caused by walkin out on me pregnant he is now refusing to register our babys birth with me. I dont like the idea of my child growing up with "unknown" father is their anything u can suggest i do 2 change his mind?

You can NOT put his name on the certificate unless he agrees if you are not married. To put his name on it he either has to come with you, or complete a special form and get it witnessed by an officially recognised person, which you can then take along with you if he is unable to attend with you for some reason.

My ds's father did this, not because he wanted to but because of enormous pressure from his mother. He lives abroad so the only way to get him on teh certificate was via the form.

If you really want your ex on the certificate then that is the route to take (his mother i mean). Does she know about your pregnancy and is she supportive?

Please bear in mind that you do now have the added consideration that if he is on the certificate he automatically gets PR. However should he go to court at a later date to ask for PR he is likely to get it anyway unless you can show good reason why he shouldn't. So I'm not sure that is something you should worry too much about, though someone did bring up in a previous thread that when she met a new partner then it caused issues with the new partner adopting the child as a father on the certificate meant he had to give permission for adoption to go ahead. There is also possible issues should he decide to cause a problem for you later on that you might be resitricted from travelling abroad wthout his permission if he has PR and things like that. Probably unlikely given that he isn't interested, but something you might want to consider if you are not on good terms.

As far as maintenance, if he is working and is paid via a payslip then it will be relatively easy to prove what he earns and get maintenance via the CSA. This is regardless of whether he is on the certificate or not. You can't apply until your child is born though. If he is self employed, or runs a company it is a little harder as the CSA have to rely on SATR's and it can be much easier to adjust your income to look artificially low for a single year. You will have to push the CSA quite hard though to get the right result for your child though as they tend to be tied up in red tape and are not the easiest organistation to deal with.